hey everyone, this Jodie, I have been here since Sept 17, 2004. I am going through some hard times now, and I need all the support I can get!!! My husband just packed some clothes and moved out, its been a long time coming, but I wasn't expecting it today. I am down and numb, but I keep telling myself I got to stay focused on my weight loss!!!!!! I got to. I cannot go back to habits which I would normally when stress hits. I know you all don't know my story, but I will share with anyone who will listen. But here, I need everyone, I don't care, I have never needed anyone more! Please help me, and if you have anyone who is a lawyer, and has some advice, please share. I live on family land that was deeded to me by my parents, and I am afraid of losing my house. We also have lots of credit card debt, and he has agreed to pay half cuz that is fair......... we will see.

I am contacting a lawyer tomorrow, and see what he says............. I am trying to keep this from getting messy, and that is the last thing he asked me, " Is this going to be messy" I told him NO, if you agree to pay half of everything, and he said yes, "that is only fair". So we will see.

I just needs friends more than anything right now!!!!!!!!! Luv all you guys, you have helped me so much so far!. Take care and Big hugzzzzzzzzzz to you all.

Jodie

Trials and Tribulations build character.

Amen!!!!!

I am so very sorry to hear of this.

Has things been worst since your surgery?

As I read your 2nd response I noticed you mentioned him "sabotaging" you since you were banded. Something came to mind..... about 2 weeks after surgery my hubby was acting really weird. It took about another 2 weeks for him to open up and be absolutely honest with himself and me as to what his problem was. He would magnify any little ordeal into a MAJOR arguement, VERY sensitive - snap my head off for nothing.

Getting to the point, we realized that he was scared. Scared I would lose 100 pounds and leave him for another - better man! I realized that he was acting this was out of self defense....... Maybe your hubby is on the same planet as mine WAS on.

this is just food for thought (sorry about the pun).

Anyway, I agree with Tricia about trials and tribulations building character (awsome words) and know that time heals everything... well, MOST things!

God bless~

I'm gonna take this on a different spin and say congradulations to you. He probably did you the world's biggest favor, because now that the initial shock is over you can begin healing physically, emotionally, spiritually, and band-ularly all at once. Good luck to you during your fresh start. It might seem horrible now, but keep asking yourself where you'd be in five years if you were still with him. If there was no hope for your relationship, then you'd have wasted five years being unhappy, when instead this should be a time of celebration and success. Take it easy on yourself and enjoy your new life.

Jodie, Sorry that you are having these problems. I pray that you find some peace and contentment in your life. I'm glad to hear that you are taking care of YOU. Good luck, sweetie.