Hey still waiting for a date for surgery , it have been a long process over a year and a 1/2 but am just feeling down about my weight and apart from the numerous medical problems that go with it , it really gets to me the way people judge FAT people I never really brought in to this belief before but it's true not everyone but the majority of 'normal' people out there literally hate us fat people and look down on us. Self confidence is at all time low atm ... Any positive stories or comments ???...???....

well I can tell you what I have used in the past. I HATE the fat people looks, gestures etc they are horrible and people just need slapped when they do it in my opinion. With that being said, I am going to tell you what I used but disclaimer here it was a repeat repeat and repeat to self, those thing still hurt and bothered me horrible. so here you go. YOU are in control of YOU and YOU only not of others or of anyone else. They can do and say what they will but YOU choose how to deal with it and handle it, not them. They can not make you feel bad, only YOU can allow that and allow it to keep hurting and playing on your mind like it does, get control of YOU and show them cause deja vu will visit with karma to their world one day and you can sit and smile while watching, but for now control YOU and what you do and feel.

i've always been big so i have learned not to judge but some times when i see a person who is 600 or so pounds i wonder how they got so large not from a judgement stand point but medical