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Ok so my sis n law was rushed to ER because of problems with her lap band. She calls and said it's been on her heart to tell me I shouldn't have the surgery because I might have issues. I know it won't be easy but why did she have to call me with that ughhhh.

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  • That is like someone with a broken ankle advising you not to get cataract surgery........apples and oranges.

  • @@mysleeve well your not having her kind of surgery and your a completely different person so I wouldn't base her outcome on yours! No worries!

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@@mysleeve well your not having her kind of surgery and your a completely different person so I wouldn't base her outcome on yours! No worries!

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@@Elode thanks for the encouragement. I go Wednesday to get my date. Let's see what she has to say when this weight starts dropping. By the way you look great! Do you have any regrets?

That is like someone with a broken ankle advising you not to get cataract surgery........apples and oranges.

I understand that she is frightened for you because she has had problems. Every surgery has risks, however, there is no reason to think that because she has had a complication you will also! That makes no sense.

Good Luck!

I know this is a terrible thing to say, but what are the odds that two people in the same family will have problems with WLS - in a way she's increased your chances of success.

Have any of you had your surgery in mexico I will be going there and looking for feedback on good surgeons and belightweight.

@@mysleeve Aww thanks! No I don't have any regrets. I LOVE to cook (and I'm damn good at it) sometimes after I cook A big dinner for the family I sit down to eat and can only eat maybe 5-6 bits max and I get aggravated but then I think about how much I would have ate had I not had surgery (a ridiculous amount) and the aggravation goes away and Its replaced with thankfulness. I'm thankful that I can no longer damage my body with unhealthy amounts of food.

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Ok so my sis n law was rushed to ER because of problems with her lap band. She calls and said it's been on her heart to tell me I shouldn't have the surgery because I might have issues. I know it won't be easy but why did she have to call me with that ughhhh.

Because she's scared. She unfortunately has had problems with her WLS and that's tainted her viewpoint. I had friends tell me never to have WLS. One person we know died from byass surgery another has problems because of the malabsorption issue.

Your body is not the same as hers. even with the sleeve some have easy times of it and some don't.

If you feel this is right for you, you have to push those thoughts out of your mind and move forward with taking care of you.

I am sorry to hear your sis is having issues. I think she is blessed to be able to tell you her concerns. You are blessed to have her. I would love to have a sister who I could do that with.

Take a deep breath and try to look at things objectively. That can be hard to do ( I am the Queen of Subjectivity when it comes to myself) but bear in mind the odds are that you'll be a-ok.

I was scared poopless when I got sleeved and this was even after I researched the procedures for years. And I was not a stranger to major surgeries. It all works out in the end. Take care of yourself and try not to stress. Best wishes and you and your sis are in my thoughts.

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