I had my sleeve surgery Sept 22 2014. I am down about 63 pounds since I started my 2 week preop diet. I have been working at the same job, a Middle School, for 13 years ... for the first time I was invited to go out with a group of work people. My husband is a volunteer fire fighter/Chief, so for the holidays we are invited to many functions. My husband has been a member of the same fire department for 15 years .. so many people talked to me that never talked to me before.

I am trying to figure out is it because I am more confident and out going or is it because I am not obese anymore....

I tend to think it is a combination of both, with more emphasis on the confidence. When I am heavy, I push people away, however when I am thin, ok, I still push people away, but I radiate a lot more confidence. People want to be around people who are happy and fun and confident in themselves. When I am fat, I am not happy, I am not fun, and I don't blame people for not wanting to hang out with me. I think it's a good idea to give people the benefit of the doubt and assume they are now inviting you to events because they realize what a friendly, warm person you are and you are no longer hiding behind your weight. If we just assumed people only liked us because we weren't fat anymore, that would be pretty depressing.

I just wanted to say Congratulations on your loss and enjoy your new life! How exciting no matter the reason.

congratulations