I'm still in process of preparing to get a surgery date. My last step is an upper scope on Jan 20. My husband and I meant with the surgeon. The surgeon recommended the RNY. My husband wants me to do the sleeve. I want the RNY. I'm 315 and will be 45 March 5 right now I have a whole person to lose. My husband lost his first wife to cancer and has a fear of losing me our me having long term complications. I told the surgeon this, the surgeon said flash out bottom line "it doesn't matter what he wants, it's what you want and what will work best for you." I still want the RNY, but feel like I'm choosen the surgeon over my husband. Any advice would be helpful. Thanks

I had my Gastric Bypass 1 month ago. I also wanted the sleeve.

After speaking with the Dr. I realized that the bypass was the way to go for me. It has been around for over 40 year so they know what to expect long term. The sleeve is fairly new about 8 to 10 years. Also my husband did not like the fact that they remove your stomach. With the bypass it's left in and can be reversed if needed, but rarely is. The bypass also is a deterrent from eating things you should not because you will have the dumping syndrome. I hope that helps.

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Tina it is normal to be nervous and I understand your husband, nevertheless, I dont think is choosing between your husband and your surgeon. I strongly believe it should be what you want and the surgeons experience in your needs. Good Luck

@@Tina140, I'm sorry you feel stuck between your surgeon and your husband.

It might be worth exploring some with your husband why he feels sleeve is a safer or more conservative choice. To me, something's just not adding up there. For example, bypass has a much longer history and much more research surrounding it. In fact, it's not uncommon for insurance companies to decline requests for sleeve and support bypass because it is so much better understood.

To be honest, the sleeve was very appealing to me when I first started this journey, and I was not at all happy that my surgeon recommended bypass instead. I came around eventually and now believe it was 100% the right choice. But it's important to get yourself educated on all sides and make the right call for you. Ask your husband to reserve judgment until you both get more information.