Ok so I'm kind of frustrated, less sexy now than before! Not sure what I'm doing wrong...maybe im not using my new body right to create attraction?

What exactly are you trying to attract?!?! Is this a clothing issue or an internal / emotional issue? It takes some time for your brain to catch up with the image your eyes see in the mirror everyday, and definitely what your heart feels.

If it's clothing, my favorite sexy clothing site is PinUp Girl. They have pricey items but it's worth every penny. I get compliments from mem AND women when I wear an outfit from PUG.

Well feeling/looking/ and being sexy all come from within. Even at my biggest I really didn't have a problem with this so I'm not sure how to help. I did just buy some new bright red lipstick and that made me feel smoking hot! Lol it does help that my husband thinks I'm sexy even on my worst days ????paint your nails, paint ur lips and say "damn I'm HOT" ☺️????

Edited December 21, 201411 yr by kikicoates78

I can see how my posts may be coming off as shallow but that is not my intention. I never really bothered to care what I looked like before because I thought it would never change. Im successful with a kind husband and a terrific son. Now that I've had this surgery I've started feeling different and thinking about all the things I've missed out on. One of those is feeling attractive. It never mattered before but now it is a constant thought in my mind. This journey is definitely a mental one as much as a physical one. I hope those that read my posts do so with an open heart and mind....

Well feeling/looking/ and being sexy all come from within. Even at my biggest I really didn't have a problem with this so I'm not sure how to help. I did just buy some new bright red lipstick and that made me feel smoking hot! Lol it does help that my husband thinks I'm sexy even on my worst days paint your nails, paint ur lips and say "damn I'm HOT" ☺

Yep, This is me. I always thought I was cute. Still do. I always get compliments from program staff because I dress nice for all my follow ups. Never had issues with boyfriends or friends in general.

@@AR40 - It's a mental thing which means the work is on you. Why not try some new things that you never did before? Buy a red lipstick and wear it every day. Get a nice dress or new pair of jeans that shows off your figure. Splurge on a fancy new haircut and/or color.

Go get a new hairdo and a makeover. Ask a friend who's style you admire to help you find some new clothes. If you're still changing sizes rapidly shop at consignment stores so you don't spend a lot of money. Even Walmart has some cute clothes. Getting the right fit is important. You deserve to feel sexy and happy about your appearance. Your self image is going to change drastically along with your body and you will gain increased self confidence. Self confidence is what makes anyone sexy, IMO.

Ok, your explanation makes sense and now I understand your question. Revamping some things with a new haircut (different color, style, add sexy bangs?!), new and different clothing, new shoes, and new sexy underwear!

Small changes on the outside can bring about changes on the inside. And how exciting that you have a husband who adores you and has a front row seat to your evolution. It's time to go shopping! Congratulations on your success thus far! =)

Sexy is not something that just happens. It is not caused by weight loss or gain.

Sexy is internal, you don't become sexy via attention from other people. By the way, there are millions of thin people who are not sexy and never will be.

You are 100% entitled to explore your sexy and to want to feel sexy and to be curious about all of that.

And as you say, if this is a new area for you, it could be full of surprises, good and otherwise. By that, I mean only that sexual attraction is a big and complicated and sometimes overwhelming subject.

There's no rush. Enjoy yourself.