My name is Dianne and I'm scheduled to have my gastric sleeve surgery on Thursday the 13th of November. I wasn't scared at first but then I started reading about the complications some forum members had. I didn't do to well with my bariatric shakes. I cheated some days but some days I didn't. I've lost 18lbs but it's hard for me because I have no support at home. My husband doesn't understand that it's hard for me to cook for him every minute and resist food. I know I can do it but I didn't develop these bad habits overnight. But I just need that support

I am sorry to hear that you do not have support from the people who should be supporting you the most. The one good thing that I do pick up from your post is that you have control over how the food is prepared. For example, if hubby wants scrambled eggs and toast for Breakfast, you can have scrambled eggs with a little bit of cheese.

If he wants pot roast for dinner, you can have the meat and tomatoes, and just fix enough potato in it for his serving. If he wants a tuna salad sandwich and chips for lunch, you can have a tomato stuffed with tuna salad. I have even used thick cucumber slices to substitute for chips or crackers.

If the family wants hamburgers on the grill, then just skip the bun for yourself. You could still have the beef patty with melted cheese. I have canned green Beans on hand for when I don't want something else (like mac and cheese) that comes to the table.

At our house, we had Thanksgiving early because of my boyfriend's work schedule. He made a roast turkey, which I can eat and stuffing, which I did not eat and fesh green beans (not the kind with mushroom Soup and onion rings) which I did eat and mashed potatoes which I did not eat, and home-made cranberry relish (made with sweetener) which I did eat. neither one of us went hungry.

You can't expect everyone else to embrace your new diet because they did not sign up for it. If you provide enough fresh meat and veggies without adding a lot of extra ingedients you will be just fine. So if the family wants spaghetti and meat balls, let them have the spaghetti, and you have some meatballs and a geen veggie. If they want homemade apple pie, then save you back an apple and eat the slices with Peanut Butter.

So, use your imagination. There is a bariatric - friendly website called The World According to Eggface. It is good reading with many practical recipes and suggestions. I wish you good luck and good health.

How long has it been since your surgery? And which surgery did you have?

How long has it been since your surgery? And which surgery did you have?

I understand the no support from husband. It sucks but I told him It doesn't matter if he supports me or not I am still doing it. It's for me not him. I am hoping he will feel different after it is done, if not I will just deal with it.

@@Dianne A, you will be fine. Even after surgery, there are sometimes one will cheat. Keep your head up and pray. I do not have support from my husband either, but I am staying my course and losing weight. Good luck!

I understand what your going through, last year my wife and friends convinced me not to go through with the surgery. It felt like I was on that show Intervention only no flight to a lovely fat camp in Malibu. Lol. So I did what i've been doing all my life and tried this year to do it on my own with the same results. Finally my PCP and my Cardiologist convinced the Mrs. so as of know she's on board, but I decided besides our parents I'm not telling anyone about the procedure until after it's done. Last year there were too many Chiefs and not enough Indians. Goodluck.

I understand what your going through, last year my wife and friends convinced me not to go through with the surgery. It felt like I was on that show Intervention only no flight to a lovely fat camp in Malibu. Lol. So I did what i've been doing all my life and tried this year to do it on my own with the same results. Finally my PCP and my Cardiologist convinced the Mrs. so as of know she's on board, but I decided besides our parents I'm not telling anyone about the procedure until after it's done. Last year there were too many Chiefs and not enough Indians. Goodluck.

They would have talked me out of it but I found out that I only have 2 mo to get it done, and if I wait I wont be considered for the surgery because I have lost enough weight to be under the BMI. That's good I lost but not enough. I know that if I am going to do it now is the time. i know that it is better because I don't have much time to talk myself out of it. LOL!!!!! I told my husband, he doesn't want me dto but like we know nobody understands. The only people that are going to know is my husband and my best friend. She is my support. Like you I don't want to hear everyones negative comments. After the surgery I will tell my kids. I don't care if people know after surgery because atleast I can't change my mind because of how everyone else feels about it. Hubby won't take time off to take me so she is going to take me to the hosp. we are 3 hrs away. Like I said I think he will be more support of once he realizes that I am ok and it is a good thing. Good Luck!!!!!!!