Having a hard time getting support at home for WLS. I told my mom I was thinking about it, after going to an open orientation today. She isn't really happy about my choice. Thinking I should just "try harder" at losing the weight on my own.

I've been successful in the past at my own attempt but like most as soon as I ease up even a little I gain it back at a rapid weight.

I understand my moms concern. She's my mother and worried about complications as well as the idea of any surgery in its self would scare her. I'm a mother myself so I do not fault her for it. It's just hard to know I don't really have her support. At least not at this point. I know she will come around... Hoping so.

You have to do what is right for you.

Everyone is not going to support you or agree with your decisions, not just with WLS but with life in general.

You be your biggest cheerleader and supporter. Oh...and the fine people here offer support daily.

There's a point where we begin teaching our mothers a thing or two - and while we hope it's a loving and graceful part of the growing relationship - it ain't always so! TOo bad your mum didn't go to the orientation with you to see and hear those things which might have helped. The older generation often eneds to hear it from 'experts' instead of us to really believe it. Are there other close connections you can rely on for that support? Someone from church or work might be able to come and help post-op with you. I know you'd like it from her, but it might take longer for her to come around to it. Give her a bit of time - maybe she will.

Edited March 11, 201412 yr by katesuccess

I am experiencing the same thing. My mom is so not supportive. She's worried about complications and says I should lose the weight naturally. I'm done doing diets and failing. My hubby and sisters also don't have my back. I'm going to my psych and nut appointment tomorrow then I get a date. Insurance already approved and all tests are done. I had no 6 month requirements. Just wish I had someone to rely on for support. I'm terrified. I've got 2 kids that are my life. I'm doing this for them to have a mom they can be proud of. So I can care for them the way they should be cared for. I don't want them to remember me like this...too fat to play on the floor with them.

I am experiencing the same thing. My mom is so not supportive. She's worried about complications and says I should lose the weight naturally. I'm done doing diets and failing. My hubby and sisters also don't have my back. I'm going to my psych and nut appointment tomorrow then I get a date. Insurance already approved and all tests are done. I had no 6 month requirements. Just wish I had someone to rely on for support. I'm terrified. I've got 2 kids that are my life. I'm doing this for them to have a mom they can be proud of. So I can care for them the way they should be cared for. I don't want them to remember me like this...too fat to play on the floor with them.

I could have wrote this myself. Family not against it but not supportive. They also believe that u should try harder on my own. Hubby seems to not care either way. I have 2 little kids and i don't want them to have the "fat" mom that can't do much.

We have each other. We got this!!!

I agree do this for you a you be your biggest cheerleader! I am blessed to have a supportive husband and family that are backing me up 100%. Best wishes on your WLS journey!

Sometimes you just have to be selfish and do what best for you. In the end it's my body and my choice. I just can't live the rest of my life as a obese person. The way I see it I have just as much "risk" walking down the street. Any number if things could happen.