A friend and client who knows very well that I had wls as we have discussed it several times sent me an email after seeing me the other day. She said she was so surprised at how great I look and could I please share my "secret" to weight loss. Hu? Seriously? I emailed her back that my secret was surgery followed by eating a diet of mostly protein to the tune of 600-800 calories a day. When did people get so downright stupid? **frustrated**

Hahaha that sounds like a "friend" of mine.... In December, he decided it would be a good idea to lecture me at length about how I REALLY NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT.

I mean at length.

We were on Facebook on text.... And I said look you're right, I'm actually eating better now and actually was losing weight (at the time I was on low-carb while I waited for a surgery date)... And so in addition to healthier eating I would also be having surgery to remove part of my stomach, I just didn't have a date set yet. But once I have surgery it'll help me lose a lot.

He kept right on at me, saying I'd be so much prettier, and I wouldn't be killing myself. I was like "dude I know. I agree. Surgery won't totally fix it but I'm hoping for good results."

He kept going!! Finally I was like OK you are REALLY hurting my feelings, I was putting up with you because I thought you could shut up but apparently you haven't got the memo, this topic is officially closed, do not ever speak to me about my weight again, unless it is to say something f**ing NICE. Surgery is MY decision and I think it'll be good for me.

Actually he didn't stop picking at me (in the nicest ways, right? Because maybe I just hadn't noticed how fat I am?) I finally asked if he was drinking, we had a big argument because he's been sober a long time....

A month later, I said something about my pre-op appointment, immediately bracing myself thinking he was gonna start in on me. "Pre op? You're having surgery?"

"Yes.... On my stomach, remember?"

"For what? Ulcers?" (Well with people like you telling me my life, that wouldn't be far off!!)

"Dude, for weight loss! Remember how you went on and on at me and I kept saying to stop picking on my weight because I'm having surgery to help? I kept saying I didn't have a surgery date yet but I'd have one soon? Well it's feb 10."

Oh no, we'd /never/ had such a conversation, he was sure he'd have remembered it. I'm like okay must have been someone else using your computer and Facebook talking to me then....

He hasn't seen me since my surgery... I bet he'll freaking take credit, like his telling me how unattractive my body was is what really got me thinking. Because prior to his lecture I probably just hadn't noticed how "outrageously obese" I was, you know, if we ever HAD such a discussion....

*sigh*

Edited March 9, 201412 yr by elfnow

Talk about a "forgetful" friend!

People can be so rude but forgetful and rude hmmm. Too much!

I think my acquaintance (who has told me many times he spent 40 years drinking too much) has some manner of alcohol-specific brain damage. And he needs friends, but my weight is not a topic of discussion. I will accept, "you look really good," "you must have had your surgery, it looks like you're doing it right," etc... But not "wow see I told you you'd be hot if you lost weight" or something like that. I might have to break his nose with my newfound elbow.

I am so glad I don't have those kind of folks around me. Y'all are doing right...Awesome job you two....