My husband decided we would not tell friends about our sleeve. We are two months post op. Invited to longtime friends three couple dinner tonight and menu is steak. They know we have dieted for 6 months. Alerted them we were not eating heavy. I have had two other instances where someone mentioned I did not drink water with my meal, and a lunch this week where I could not eat a huge bowl of soup and got comments. We do not eat out very much. We shared a small filet last weekend, and did great but barely finished it. I know I feeling stupid with this worry.

really di not want to tell people about my surgery because I did not want to be in the spot light etc. It has come up with my friends and without except they have given me hearth felt support. of course you have to answer questions about how it works etc buti don't mind, they seem interested. I came to the conclusion that if I do not want to be defined by my weight, I should stop it from being an issue with me first. Now I speak freely about it and it is liberating, and I think helps me prepare for the future. for me it is like the AA step where you admit you have a problem you are powerless over. Admitting your weakness I think gives you the power to conquer it.

I had the surgery 10 wks ago and I only told my mother and father. At work I drink my Protein shake so they wont question how little I eat. I recently went on a disney cruise with some of my family. My sister in law made a few comment about how little I ate but just told her I am watching what I eat. And that I am working with my doctor in order to loss weight.

The person who noticed the most was the waiter. He made such a big deal out of how little I ate. And he kept asking if there was something he could get me (thinking I did not like the food). I did go out with my work crew for a retirement party and ordered the side salad. When I didnt finish it, one or two made a comment about it but I just told them it had to much dressing, no big deal.

All and All I think it has been really easy keeping this from people, easier then I thought it would.

Edited January 31, 201412 yr by hatters

Megabob and Hatters, thanks for responding. My husband is very private about any of his business so there is no changing this and telling all. I respect him and his wishes. What I have to do is quit worrying about it - because it is what it is. Darn weird how everyone wants you to eat BIG, LOL!! Okay, dinner in 2 hours, I will survive. At least we are finally seeing these dear friends, and for us who choose to keep our surgeries to ourselves, this is what we will deal with. I mentioned once that when we see the three people I insisted we tell, all the conversation is about is our surgery, and I finally have to say ENOUGH! Lets talk about you!