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Ive completely fell off the diet wagon, I'm ashamed as I'm only 3 months post op. my father died in december an I've turned to food for comfort, although i cant eat a lot I'm back to eating "bad foods" again an i cant get myself back on track.

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Ive completely fell off the diet wagon, I'm ashamed as I'm only 3 months post op. my father died in december an I've turned to food for comfort, although i cant eat a lot I'm back to eating "bad foods" again an i cant get myself back on track.

i am so sorry about your father.....

yes you can get yourself on track.....no need to dribble drama (that you are ashamed etc) leave that BS at the door GF.......you are a beautiful woman inside and out......and we all know it.....i should hate you because you are so pretty.....but i dont :)

so right now, get back in the saddle.....RIGHT NOW

whats done is done and never to come back or be returned to us to do over

eat good foods and in the allotted amount the dr advised you and exercise (go walk if you are stressed or take a hot bath to unwind some) or yell or vent...

food only gives that instant food gasm for a moments time and then we feel like sh*it afterwards......so dont go back to dieting traps......you are not on a diet.......eat to lose weight....eat to live your life.....and understand its a process.....make yourself well...start today..start now.

Edited by ☠carolinagirl☠

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First off, I'm so very sorry to hear about your father. My thoughts are with you and your family.

It's so easy to turn to food for comfort, but remember, that's what got you here in the first place. It won't make you feel any better in the long run. You could start by doing simple things, such as keeping yourself accountable for what you eat (when you eat it, write it down), or when you find yourself searching out food when you aren't physically hungry, take a short (or long) walk instead. Also, getting rid of all the junk food at home, and replacing it with healthy foods might help as well.

You've got this! You can do it!

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Sorry to hear about your loss.....and yes, Dieting can be tough.....

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Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

I to fell back into my old habits. After having 4 surgeries in 2 and a half years, I found myself laying in bed wondering what ever happened to the old me. One night I was in bed and came to this web site and started reading post after post and it finally dawned on me that I had the power to change. And change I did. First thing in the morning I called my band Docs office and made an appointment. I took my husband with me so he could make sure I told the Doc every thing I had been through and that I was serious about getting back on track. That was 8 months ago and I am happy to say that I am back to losing again. I actually had gained back about 70 pounds and I have lost 35 of it so far. My Doc was so understanding and has really been encouraging me with each visit.

I wish you luck.

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Thank you so much for your kind words they mean a lot, I've just got in from a longggggg walk. This site is brilliant for encouragement and support. I will take your advice an try get back on track and Carolina Girl you are truly beautiful inside and out too!

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I can totally relate to what is going on in your life right now. Losing a parent is a difficult thing, and it's effects on our lives are profound.

Your a strong woman and CG is right these days when I am upset and frustrated or 101 things at once walking always helps me clear my head. I wish sometimes that I could just go and take a walk when I wanted/needed to. I'd probably never be sitting at my desk :)

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Thoughts and prayers for you and your family.

I to fell back into my old habits. After having 4 surgeries in 2 and a half years, I found myself laying in bed wondering what ever happened to the old me. One night I was in bed and came to this web site and started reading post after post and it finally dawned on me that I had the power to change. And change I did. First thing in the morning I called my band Docs office and made an appointment. I took my husband with me so he could make sure I told the Doc every thing I had been through and that I was serious about getting back on track. That was 8 months ago and I am happy to say that I am back to losing again. I actually had gained back about 70 pounds and I have lost 35 of it so far. My Doc was so understanding and has really been encouraging me with each visit.

I wish you luck.

This is exactly what I'm speaking of when I say you never know where inspiration, tough love, etc. will come from! This is an awesome forum, with amazing people walking the talk!

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Oops! Suzie - was attempting to quote you- not have it look like my post! :-)

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I'm so sorry to hear that. I lost my father right before Thanksgiving three years ago just before my surgery so I totally understand what you're going through. It is hard but you can do it. Forget those previous days and just start over. Do a day or two of liquids, then mushies, etc. Remember why you had your body cut on in the first place. You can do it. Hugs to you.

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