When we lose weight, often times we begin online dating. For many people, they were heavy during the years that most people date, so they don't have a whole lot of experience with dating.

I've been online dating quite awhile. My last 3 relationships were with men I met online. My bf and I broke up in Octover so I am back looking at profiles and meeting new guys. This time I am going at it a little differently, because I live in the middle of nowhere . My son moved to the largest city in Oregon, Portland. I go there frequently now, to visit them ( mostly my 4 yr old granddaughter) So I decided to start looking there too, and it opened up a whole new pool of men.

I like the site ok cupid. They have all these questions, which if you see a profile you like, you can see how they answered the questions. I have used Plenty of Fish too, (POF for short)

This time it's different though, because I will be meeting men out of town . That brings up a whole new issue. Hotels. I don't stay with my son because they really don't have a guest room, and it's much easier on me to stay on my own. This makes it a lot harder since I have met someone I like. I want to go and see him. He is one of the few guys who has not brought up the subject of sex immediately, but I could see how staying in a hotel could make things sticky.

Anyway, I thought this was a good topic for the girls, because I know a lot of us are online dating and there are stories to share!

I'm afraid of online dating. I had wayyy too many bad experiences in college with it :-( it seems like most of those guys I ran into were just seeking a friend with benefits..

I've had good success with it, but I sure had to weed out a lot of losers before I ever found anyone to date. 99.9% losers around here. But I am branching out to Eugene and Portland where there are tons more men than here.

I think it's going to be harder to figure out the ones that are players though. They're more experienced in knowing exactly what women want to hear so it will get them into bed with her.

I am trying to picture this guy I am meeting today. He's been sick so has had to cancel several times. I can tell he is anxious to meet today though, when I talked to him this morning.'

Anyway, he is 5'7" and most short guys lie. He could be even shorter. Every guy I have ever been with has been almost 6' or over 6 '. I am only 5'2" so he will stilll be taller. I hope he is at leat 5'7" and hasn't lied.

But he seems like a nice guy, and i am anxious to get his over with cause I am not into talking on the phone with him every night.

I also got a mesage from someone on POF that asked for a picture and i sent him one today.

I want to date lots of guys before I get stuck in another long term relationship.. Especially if they are going to be long distance things .

Hope you have fun on your date :-)

I'm trying to navigate these waters too. I joined senior people meet, and have been talking with one guy - I'm not very good with the juggling multiple guys thing. We met for drinks Wednesday, and he was more handsome than his pictures, which surprised me. We had a really nice time, and have a movie date this Sunday. I don't think staying in a hotel makes sex more likely to happen, I think this guy is waiting/ expecting that I will eventually invite him back to my place, so I don't see a difference in that regard. I also think that, for me, the excess skin will slow the physical part down for me, because it will be a while before I'm comfortable with sharing my surgery/the effects of the weight loss on my body. I figure I will eventually learn the real deal about a person just by spending time with them and keeping my eyes open. But at this point I'm hopeful about the guy I have met. Fingers crossed for all of us!

Well my date was awful. He did lie. He was shorter than me and I am 5'2". He looked weird.

Beth, that's funny. I met him off Senior People Meet. I've met people from plentyoffish, and ok cupid. He is the first one I've met from a site I actually paid money to join . I wish I hadn't paid for 6 whole months. Most of the guys that wink at me, or message me look like they are 80 years old. I may be 60 but that does not mean I will settle for some old bald fat guy. There are people my age who are sill fit and entergetic. I just have to find one!

Well my date was awful. He did lie. He was shorter than me and I am 5'2". He looked weird. Beth, that's funny. I met him off Senior People Meet. I've met people from plentyoffish, and ok cupid. He is the first one I've met from a site I actually paid money to join . I wish I hadn't paid for 6 whole months. Most of the guys that wink at me, or message me look like they are 80 years old. I may be 60 but that does not mean I will settle for some old bald fat guy. There are people my age who are sill fit and entergetic. I just have to find one!

Yeah, that has been my experience as well, and I'm 47! My favorite was the guy in his 70s or 80s who lives in an RV with his dogs in Utah - I mean, what 47 year old woman wouldn't be all over that! One guy I was talking to said he was 56, but in his picture he looked older than that. Turns out he is really 66, and when I asked him why he lied, he said he didn't want to play bingo with the women his age. I was so offended by that!

I don't understand why your guy would lie to that extreme, knowing you would eventually meet face-to-face. I'm sorry that happened. I only signed up for a month at a time, and if it doesn't work out with this guy, I will be trying eharmony. I bet you could cancel your subscription early if you wanted to, but I think there are some possibilities on there, with patience. I also tell myself that I'm only looking for one person, not a slew of people, so it can't be too too hard!

Very helpful post, thank you.

I have not read one post here that mentions eHarmony. I joined it when I was divorced as well as a few other sites (Match, Christian Mingle, Relationships.com) Almost every man I met/dated on eHarmony was an incredible match for me. Chemistry was unbelievable.

I met my husband through eHarmony 6 years ago and I couldn't be happier!

I encourage anyone looking for quality to try it out. They often have free weekends and trials. It's worth it.

I have tried E Harmony but the matches they sent me last time were all over 200 miles away. I am trying long distance dating, but not that long of a distance. I think 200 miles is my limit, and it has to be 200 miles in the right direction. I go 200 miles north every month to see my kids.

Sorry your date was awful. 5'7" is a long way off from 5'0".. Wonder why he felt compelled to lie ?

He probably lied because he's short, just like some of us lie about our weight. It wasn't just that he was short, I just did not warm up to him. I could tell he wanted me to sit close to him and I sat at the other end of the couch.

There is this local guy that I like, who just told me he broke up with his gf. This changes everything. I will have to see if he wants to remain "only friends"

Yeah, I hear ya. Short guys aren't my thing either, and I'm 5'3". Maybe it's just the ones that I've met, but they seem to be extremely pushy...that is not cool in my book.

Height is a big deal to me. I just cannot date someone shorter than I am! It feels so weird to me. God bless Nicole Kidman when she was with Tom Cruise.... But I can't do it and you need to be with someone who "fits". Keep casting that line and the right fish will bite.

No kidding,. I am only 5'2" but my husband was 6' and all my bf's all my life were at least that tall. My first husband was 6'3". I could like someone 5'7" . At least I would still be looking up. This guy looked so weird. Long body and really short legs.

I bet he is bummed. He was sure we were a perfect match.