Can I get back on.. I have let go because of confidence than I started thinking WTF am I doing. So I have taken my fitness pal back to 800 CAL and is increasing my time in the gym... I will not fail. I really want to know has their been people out their who fell off the wagon than got back on and was still successful?????

I fall off all the time. I have reached every goal I set for myself. The key to falling off is knowing why you fell. Was it a stressful day, emotional day, hormones, sickness, boredom, loneliness. Once you realize what it is you can take the steps to correct it.

My trigger for eating bad is when I am sick and not feeling good. I have a oh who cares attitude about food then. I want the comforts of being a little girl and mom taking care of me. So I tend to not eat protein and eat anything that my head craves for that time.

Remember this is a journey and part of the journey is self discovery. To me this is the hardest part of the journey. Letting feelings come forward and dealing with the reason we ate so much food.

I may not know where the journey will end, but I know where to start!

We've all had years and years if the 'diet' mentality. A diet for me is unnaturally restricting food consumption for a limited amount of time. RNY surgery frees us from this thinking. We are human, we will fall off, we will do dumb things and not just with food, lol. This surgery gives us a tool to be able to live our lives and make the odd wrong choice without feeling like we've blown our latest attempt to 'diet'. You'll be fine :-)

I have MFP set to a daily goal of 1700 calories (I'm in the maintenance part of my journey). Do I hit that goal every single day? No. Do I want to hit that goal every single day? Absolutely not. Does my weight go up on those days when I exceed my calorie goal? Usually. Do I make minor adjustments (say a 100-200 calorie reduction) for a day or two following an 1800-2000 calorie day. Every time. Does my weight come back down with my reduced calorie goal for a day or two? Like clockwork.

It's about control, not denial. All or nothing is unrealistic and not sustainable. Life is supposed to be fun! Part of living your life is enjoying those special occasions that more often than not involve food. I don't think of it as "falling off the wagon". I think of it as enjoying a beautiful day with family and friends. No panic, no stress, no worry. I know that I can enjoy that experience and still be in total control of my weight. I know that because I've done it. Not just once or twice but - again, and again, and again. That kind of confidence is priceless. And the key to gaining that kind of confidence is maintaining a food log. It's quick, it's easy, and it works exactly the same way regardless of where you're at in your journey - pre-op, rapid weight loss, or maintenance.

Maintain a food log, allow yourself to enjoy special occasions, make minor, realistic and temporary corrections. Do those things and you're gonna love the new you!!

Ive been cheating for weeks. Just cant seem to do the right thing and I feel hopeless. Dont know what to do anymore...

starting weight 298, current 183, goal 150

Ive been cheating for weeks. Just cant seem to do the right thing and I feel hopeless. Dont know what to do anymore...

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I think talking to a professional might help, especially if you're feeling so down. You're really hard on yourself, babe. I hate to see you feeling so bad. Can you contact your surgeon's office for a referral to a support group? Message me if you want. You've come so far! Don't give up, it's going to be ok.

Eating chocolate and drinking coffee everyday. Hate myself. 2 month stall.

starting weight 298, current 183, goal 150

Hi guys, I hope everyone had a great holiday! I had 5 days off, thanksgiving, 2 birthdays, a company party, a friday night out with friends with alcohol, and an episode with a party size bag of peanut M&Ms over the past 10 days. I also didn't exercise or track my food, Protein or Water.

I've gained 3 lbs!! I'm not sure what came over me but I think I lost my mind! It just still seems like so much work...I just wanted to relax and enjoy my time off. However, the m&ms were me stressing over not doing anything right. I realize that now...

I'm beginning to think maybe I can't do this even with my lapband. Maybe I will be one of those who fail??

So today, I am going to try to get back on track but feeling like crap for what I've done. Any words of wisdom??