I'm sure we all have a jealous friend well I've had one for 20 years! She's jealous of everything I do but it feels like my husband has a blind spot about it as he likes her grrr!

She's a glamorous woman with amazing hair (she's a hair stylist) immaculate make up but she's pretty heavy and since quitting smoking she's getting bigger. She is now bigger than my starting weight I would guess.

She is one of the people I did NOT want to know I was getting surgery as my business would have been all over town she's an incurable gossip and everyone would have found out whether I wanted them to know or not. So I've kept it a secret and as I'm losing slowly my gradual loss isn't too shocking.

I lost weight on my own 10 years ago over 100lbs and when she saw my changing she joined Light Life. It took me 3 years to lose the weight as I'm a slow loser (still am despite surgery) and I exercised constantly and went to weight watchers. She joined Lighter Life and got to goal within 6 mths! She ended up lighter than me but it didn't last for either of us unfortunately and over the years we both regained most of it.

So now I'm changing again not once has she given me a compliment she completely refuses to discuss it and I understand how that feels but last night I dreamt that I saw her and she was a size 0 and lost her weight overnight. It's not a very healthy relationship!

Last time she lost weight she was always getting on my scale at my house to show me her weight and telling me her jean size and all the men that had hit on her that week! It got more than a little annoying. I haven't done that now the tables are turned I've just been quietly getting in with it. I'm not at a low enough weight yet to get to that stage anyhow but it's not kind to do that when someone close to you is struggling with their weight.

We all know one for sure!!!

My friend, I am sorry. If possible, the best reaction is no reaction at all.

If I can share a good Quaker quote:

“The jealous are troublesome to others, but a torment to themselves”

I have to hand it to you for still considering her a friend. I sense that your continuing relationship with her is not because you are desperate for friends. You just have a lot of tolerance, you are a class act. You don't discard folks easily, ...strength of character.

I had a picture in my mind of a person with a pet jaguar. It is pretty but can turn on you in a heartbeat.