Have been on this journey since May. I am being sleeved on thursday. A month and a half ago I was diagnosed Type 2 diabetic. I have also had 2 heart attacks. The first when I was 43 the second 3 yrs ago. I knew if I didnt do something drastic, I would be taking a dirt nap by the time I am 55. Right now I am 51. I have been split from my deadbeat husband since 2007. I have a 23 yr old son who lives with me and has zero contact with his dad. This is my son's choice as he finally sees his dad the way he is, not how he wishes him to be. From the time we split, ex would come see my son but ONLY if my son would take him to dinner, movies, bowling, whatever. He would tell my son he couldnt afford to pay.

My son is disabled. When he was 12 he was crossing the street and was hit by a car, put through the windshield head. First then thrown 30 ft back. He nearly died that night and all docs have said he shouldn't have survived. Thankfully he did, albeit with lifelong affects. He suffers from Traumatic Brain Injury and is also diagnosed Aspergers.

Since 07 when he was diagnosed with TBI, we have worked hard to get him independent. He is extremely emotionally connected to me. Prefers to stay home and not socialize. I have worried that if I die, his dad will appear to help him spend his inheritance so I worked it out with my brother and all my possessions and insurances will go to my brother for my son. My son is still not in a place that he can be successful living alone. At least that is how I see things.

I am perfectly at peace with this procedure, i have no doubts and know this is absolutely the right thing for me to do. The last couple of days my son has been edgy, stressed and short fused. Tonight he said to me 'Mom, I dont want you to have this surgery, I am really scared if something happens to you, I will be lost.'

My heart broke for him. Everything I said here I told him. I also told him that if something did happen to me, his godfather (my brother) would make sure he was ok.

It didnt satisfy him but he did drop it. I dont know what else to say to him. For me, i am fine and at peace, for my son I am worried for him. We live about an hour and a half from my brother so my son will be alone waiting on me to come out of surgery. I dont know what to do to make this easy on him.

Thanks for listening if you made it through this whole thing.

They called. Have to be at the hospital at 0630 for 830 surgery. Cany anyone tell me about how long the surgery takes?

Every surgeon is different. My surgery will be about a half hour but I'll be in the hospital over night.

To all you moms with your fears about this surgery taking you from your kids, the only thing I can say is (hopefully it doesn't come off harsh, I find I have a blunt way about me so disclaimer: no offense meant) you have an exponentially higher chance of dying prematurely due to obesity related diseases than you do from having this surgery. This surgery is helping extend the time you have with your kids, not rob you of it.

I was just about to write what Mouse said, but she beat me to it. NOT having the surgery is what I'd be worried more about.

Hope all went well for you today

Everything went fabulous. Surgery was at 0830, i remember being wheeled to the OR but not getting there. Then I remember someone telling me to scooch onto the Operating Table. Then it was 230 pm and I was scooching to walk. Started walking about 3pm and have mede like 30 laps around this floor. I am starving, since they are only giving me ice chips. And my son sits beside me eating an italian hero hot fries and a pepsi.

My son also did spectactularly! Stayed with me till about 430 then went home to sleep. Now he is back. With all kinds of goodies i cannot have

So happy for you! High five!

Day 2 feeling FABULOUS. Convinced the nurses to let me remove my IV. i will be on liquids now till tomorrow. Showered and boy did that feel heavenly!!

Gotta get up and walk some getting bored just sitting here.

So glad everything went well!! Hooray for you and your son! Here's hoping for smooth sailing from here on out...

so glad to hear everything is well and your son pulled through too. Can't wait to hear about your continued success