Why is it when it comes to weight loss you truly see "friends" for who they really are? Why does it suddenly have to be a competition?

Here i am about 5 wks post op still struggling to lose weight haven't found that sweet spot probably won’t' until a few more fills. when i get this email from someone i would have considered a friend right up until I hit read…. All I had asked was where she had been for the last few day’s and that I had missed her at lunch as she was blowing me off..

the response I get.

Mostly yada yada yada.. oh I lost 10 more lbs last week getting to the gym WITHOUT you. WTF….

Where is the encouragement in that. Where is the support I had hopped for by sharing what is going on in my life. She knows I had WLS.. suddenly she’s I’d never do that to my body… I feel like I just got kicked right to the curb.. i was there for her through her illness, her husbands illness and most recently her daughters to support, care and just be a friend never once judging..

Feeling completely disillusioned it's not the first jab she's made but i guess it will be the last one i allow her to make.

So i just had lunch with the "friend"i started this thread about.... lunch was fun and nice and then half way through she was all.. i can't believe how skinny your getting.. I mean your stomach still sticks out but it's getting there.. WHY oh WHY oh WHY couldn't she just stick with your looking great???

I guess it'll be another month or so before lunch happens again

Oh good LORD!!!! That was a backhanded complement ... Did you say something about her ears sticking out or her buck teeth or something in retaliation, LOL?