I am having surgery on the 22nd. My parents have been going through a divorce for 2 years, both in serious relationships most of that time. The divorce was just finalized. My dad just took me out to lunch and told me he is getting married on the 26th and wants me to ride in the car for 2 hours to go to the wedding. He chose not to tell me that e was getting married until after I set my surgery date. He got all upset and started crying when I told him I didn't think I could make it.. What do you all think?? Is it ok to ride in a car for 2 hours, 4 days after gastric bypass?? I don't know what it feels like so I don't know of it's ok!!!? He said he would get us a hotel room so we didn't have to drive it twice in one day.

I have to agree with almost everybody here. I know you don't want to disappoint your Dad, but I will tell you that, even when I thought I could do more the first week I was in pain, was restless at night and exhausted by the afternoon. I'm not saying you can't do it, but you will probably have a hard time socializing and focusing, be unable to eat and wish you could just be at home. Plus, clothing hurts your stomach! Sometimes you have to be selfish and do what's best for you. Hopefully your Dad will understand. Good luck.

Sue

I could have done it. I would have been exhausted and slept on the way down and back but I could have done it. Honestly. Until you're at that point. I don't think you can predict how you'll be feeling and if you're physically capable if going or not. Perhaps you'll wake up that morning feeling great and want to try, but I don't think you can commit to going at this point :/ sorry this is so tough, hope you find peace with your decision.

HW 312, pre-op (RNY) 255, current weight 198

I could have done it. I would have been exhausted and slept on the way down and back but I could have done it. Honestly. Until you're at that point. I don't think you can predict how you'll be feeling and if you're physically capable if going or not. Perhaps you'll wake up that morning feeling great and want to try' date=' but I don't think you can commit to going at this point :/ sorry this is so tough, hope you find peace with your decision.

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I agree with this. I travelled 3 hours away 5 days after my surgery and went back to work 10 days post op. Both were approved by my doctor.

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I wouldn't do it...your in that time period of pain and trying to get liquids down is a struggle...everyone's body reacts differently but you have take care of yourself and you don't need to take any chances with your recovery and health after having major surgery.