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Ethics question about Size and presense

I am curious of your experience in this.... and it pertains to women, though men are welcome to respond

For those who have lost weight and are BELOW a size 12 for example:

What is your expereince when you walk into a room, or an event, or somewhere with a crowd?

Do you think people noticed you MORE when you were larger, or do you think people notice you more NOW that you are smaller and perhaps fit into the more normal size range?

Now I know this is about confidence for some..... and for some it could be about <physical> beauty.

Some might feel they stand out MORE as a smaller person and they like that, and some might feel they blend in more and they like that.

I am having this emotional fear that when I drop this weight, I am going to get "lost in the crowd". I wonder if my size has added "presence" to me that my personality wouldn't ordinarily convey.....

On the contrast, I wonder if I will look sooooo fabulous that people will notice me everywhere. LOL

So what has your experience been???

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    Girl, its probably just my ego..but now that I'm in size 8/6, I get doors opened for me. I get men wanting me to talk to me while driving. I've been told by woman that they wish they were my size. I c

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    I think when u got it, u just got it!! No matter the size. Sent from my iPhone using RNYTalk

  • I don't know if its my confidence or what but I find people ... Strangers... Accept me more as a smaller person then as a larger person. People converse more... Or maybe it's me becoming more outgoing

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You might be smaller but u will be bigger than life! I love that u r are comfortable just being you. You made me simile today!

And you really made me smile back :D :D :D:P

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