I am having a hard time, my side of the family is behind me 100%. But my in-laws are so negative about it. It shouldn't bother me since I have the support I need, but it only takes one nay sayer to ruin my excitment. they don't understand why I can just diet and work out.

Nicole, stop listening to others! This is about you, your health, your body. They will never understand unless they walk in your shoes. I had my surgery 2/19/13 I weighed 194, today I weigh 161.5. I'm 5'2. Some people dont understand how I got it done, couldn't I be more discipline or exercise more. I'm like no I had no will power or I would have done it! Stay strong!

Self-empowerment is intimidating to others. WLS is self-empowerment. as your self-empowerment grows, those round you whoever relationships with you here based on a perceived lack in your power will be threatened. some of the relationships evolve. Some must disappear.

dear nicole

just forget about them fools.

you have all the weight to lose and gain such a better and HAPPIER and HEALTHIER life to gain.

and you have your family's support. they are the ones that really count. good luck, girl!

Obeasta

Send them to hell! I careless what others have to say.

they aren't just negative about your WLS - they ARE negative. If they were saying things like we worry about the surgery risks, that would be normal. If they are telling you you can meet your goals through diet & dicipline & Exercise, then ask them why they aren't rich sucessful lawyers or brain surgeons????

This thread kills me! I too deal with this myself - and from my own damn husband!!! And yes, he IS a negative person, not just specific to the WLS.

F*CK THEM!!! This is for you. PS this is NOT about their son either!!! My in-laws quickly became Out-laws!

Why is your PERSONAL HEALTH up for discussion anyway? People (in-laws or not) need to learn their place. I wish someone would try to force their opinions/judgement/questions about MY health on me! My husband is not allowed to tell anyone about my surgery plans and that includes his family. Even if I hadn't spoken the words he would never tell anyone anyway. I don't know if they would have anything negative to say or not and if they did, they wouldn't say it to me! I just don't think it is any of their business. Not that I care what other people think, but I'm not going to give them the opportunity to ATTEMPT to volunteer their opinion. I've only told my parents, my sister and a close cousin about my plans. You need to do what's best for you and tell them that you are not concerned with whether or not they understand your dieting and/or exercise habits. I'm sure there is a nicer way of telling them to mind their own business, but someone else will have to help you with that...

Thank you for the support! I just have to put them out of my head. My husband was iffy about it at first cause he doesn't want anything bad to happen to me. But he has come to realize I want and need this to be healthy and happy. I wish my surgery date was tomorrow lol that's how eager I am to get started!