Hey guys my name is Tasha I am the mother to the most wonderful little boys a mommy could ask for and a very loving and supportive husband who has been by my side through this whole process.... I am so exited and scared to death now that I actually have my surgery date ((December 3, 2012 @ 7am)) I guess I'm just a worry wort but I am terrified of leaving my kids without a mommy and my husband without a wife... Also I know that my surgery is sooo close to christmas and I feel like I am taking money for myself and being so selfish when I could use that money for my kids and husband for christmas I can't actually tell you the last time I bought something for me without feeling extremely guilty and returning it and getting something for my boys.... HELP AM I DOING THE RIGHT THING?????

You are giving your gift early to your boys and husband this Christmas by getting the surgery done, getting healthy and being able to do so much more for them and with them. How exciting is that! It's a gift that will keep on giving!

Ladies you are all remarkable examples of what it means to be a wife and a mom and I salute every one of you. RNY is not about vanity and selfishness. They don't even make the top 100 reasons for having this surgery. RNY is about dramatically improving your health. Dramatically improving your life span. Dramatically improving the quality of your life. Dramatically improving the things that you can do and enjoy with your family. Dramatically improving your self esteem. Dramatically improving your outlook on life. Yes, you are going to love the new you! And yes, your family and those who care about you are going to as well!! You are all heroes in every sense of the word!!

Hi my name is Lisa and my surgery date is Dec 4 and well I'm scared to death !! I feel like I need to have the surgery but I'm worried if I'm even making the right decision ? I am a busy mother of two boys !! Is it right to ask everyone else to sacrifice ? I have always put my family first and I don't know if I have it in me to to do this !!

If you go to December Dates you will find that you have several journey partners. Good luck on your surgery.