Anybody else experience guilt about having surgery?

I have lived my whole life trying to make others happy & not everybody is happy I'm having this surgery wether they say it out loud or not...

Then i think what if? What if something bad happens? My kids would be without a mom...

So i go through weak times and strong times...surgery is tomorrow!! I have to believe that all will go well and my life will be better because of it!! Ive been a big girl my entire life and its time to live my life for me!!! (And my kids)

Guilt is such a normal feeling. I have one daughter and she is 2 I had so much fear but not for me but for her. I felt guilt that she wouldn't see me for the 2 nights 3 days in the hospital. She wouldn't understand... I skyped with her but I was so tired and discomfort I didn't talk long. Point is... Mother to mother you are the last person you think about. This is your health and it will be something you do for you. Have no fear, pray for serenity, and fast recovery to return your kiddos.

All the best tomorrow and pls keep us posted on your recovery.

You are in my prayers

Surgery 7/25/12

Guilt is such a normal feeling. I have one daughter and she is 2 I had so much fear but not for me but for her. I felt guilt that she wouldn't see me for the 2 nights 3 days in the hospital. She wouldn't understand... I skyped with her but I was so tired and discomfort I didn't talk long. Point is... Mother to mother you are the last person you think about. This is your health and it will be something you do for you. Have no fear' date=' pray for serenity, and fast recovery to return your kiddos.

All the best tomorrow and pls keep us posted on your recovery.

You are in my prayers

Surgery 7/25/12[/quote']

Omg thank you, today is such an emotional up and down day!! I cant wait to wake up tomorrow and Be done with the surgery part of this...and yes i will update you guys!!

Anybody else experience guilt about having surgery?

I have lived my whole life trying to make others happy & not everybody is happy I'm having this surgery wether they say it out loud or not...

Then i think what if? What if something bad happens? My kids would be without a mom...

So i go through weak times and strong times...surgery is tomorrow!! I have to believe that all will go well and my life will be better because of it!! Ive been a big girl my entire life and its time to live my life for me!!! (And my kids)

It isn't an exact comparison but today my daughter in law is going in to have breast enhancement. She dropped the kids off here and I ask if she was nervous and she said no excited and a little guilty, I said why, she said cause I won't be able to be a good mommy for a few days. Mom's just never think we deserve anything for ourselves. But what you are doing will help you be a better mom. Don't feel guilty. You are giving yourself and your family a gift. I will be praying for you and your surgery team.

It isn't an exact comparison but today my daughter in law is going in to have breast enhancement. She dropped the kids off here and I ask if she was nervous and she said no excited and a little guilty' date=' I said why, she said cause I won't be able to be a good mommy for a few days. Mom's just never think we deserve anything for ourselves. But what you are doing will help you be a better mom. Don't feel guilty. You are giving yourself and your family a gift. I will be praying for you and your surgery team.[/quote']

Thats it both my kids are overweight... I want to teach them how to be healthy adults so they dont end Up like me but when your 300 plus plus pounds thats a bit overwhelming and how do u give them something you dont have?

I can do this!!!!! Thank you for all your prayers!!!

All those crazy emotions right before surgery are totally normal. Please don't feel guilty, you are doing this to get healthy and be a better Mom to your kids.. why feel guilty about improving your health, you should be proud of yourself !!!! It take a lot to go thru this surgery no matter what your reasoning is. I commend you for doing it and for taking the path to a healthier you - good luck tomorrow

All those crazy emotions right before surgery are totally normal. Please don't feel guilty' date=' you are doing this to get healthy and be a better Mom to your kids.. why feel guilty about improving your health, you should be proud of yourself !!!! It take a lot to go thru this surgery no matter what your reasoning is. I commend you for doing it and for taking the path to a healthier you - good luck tomorrow [/quote']

You are so kind...thank you...now i cant stop like cleaning and doing all those things i been wanting to do around the house but never quite got to...just to occupy my mind

Yes but I wanted to live long & healthy and I knew it was the right decision.