Anyone pre or post op that worries about post op relationship issues? I am pre op until october and often wonder if my new found confidence will give me a wandering eye.....I know it sounds horrible but I'm just being honest. Just wondered if anyone felt the same?

Be very careful with the "wandering eye".... I have heard a lot of post op people get that confidence after losing the weight and it has ended many a relationship. You really have to have a strong bond prior to having surgery as well as a supportive spouse during the process. Talk out issues with them. Unless you are unhappy prior to surgery and wouldnt mind a "change" afterwards.

My husband and I talk about my changes and we look for new things we can now do together with both of us gaining confidence. I am always very honest with him about my feelings and needs.

I am not sure as I haven't had surgery yet. But in my opinion a lot of times when men or women have self esteem issues from the get go they do tend to " settle" into relationships that are abusive or just because they think that is all they are worth and might as well take what you can get so not to he alone. But on the other hand there are truly decent people that will look inside your heart and not what's on the outside