Well I had my first visit with everyone. Took my daughter with me cause I thought she was going to be my support system but when the doctor talked about all that can happen she decided it was not worth the risk. She said if I can lose weight in the three months then why don't I continue that. It is hard to explain that I am already at risk for

Many things. I am sorry I took her. Any suggestion or advice

Every surgery has risks and loved ones often get concerned when they hear that. It might help your daughter if she understands the benefits and risks beyond what a doctor can explain in a short meeting. And it might help you be more comfortable as well. Here are some great online resources to get you started. There are many more. The bottom line for me was that the odds were overwhelmingly in favor of my surgery being successful. I would do it again in a second. You're gonna love the new you!!

• http://www.hsph.harv...vention-source/ (Harvard School of Public Health)
  
• http://www.webmd.com/
  
• http://asmbs.org/ (American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery)
  
• http://iom.edu/Repor...Prevention.aspx (Institute of Medicine of the National Academy of Science)
  
• http://www.wlslifestyles.com/ (This is a digital magazine with an ENORMOUS amount of information on weight loss surgery. Cost is $19.95 for a one year subscription and imho that's a real bargain.)
  
• http://www.mayoclinic.com/
  

Only you can know what's best for you and your health. When I asked my dad (who os also morbidly obese) why he didn't consider getting the surgery too since it's obviously covered under our insurance he said "because I know if I get my fat ass on a treadmill that i'll lose the weight instead of taking the pussy way out"

So yeah. Family aren't always the best support system. But look who's a lot healthier and happier now versus my dad who still morbidly obese, a smoker, has high blood pressure and is borderline diabetic.

- Kaylee Ann ~ Surgiversary: 6/11/12

My dad used to be morbidly obese and lost the weight without surgery. Just 3 hours after my surgery he says to me "I didn't need surgery to lose weight. What's wrong with you?" Needless to say him and I don't get along. Never really did. I knew I needed the surgery and no one was changing my mind. Do what you know is right for you.

In the end it really is your decision and only YOU can answer the question as to whether you can do this following the rules given to you by your bariatric surgeon and nutritionist regarding eating, amounts to eat and exercise etc that needs to be done. You know how often you tried before to lose weight and how successful you were etc.

Definitely read and do research for yourself. DLC provided a lot of good links and I'll also recommend the Weightloss Surgery for Dummies book. It was a great reference and compared surgeries available. Explains well what needs to happen etc.

Good luck with your decision

DLCoggins is my saviour !!!!

All is great advice. Thank you