always seems to coincide with ignorant, which can be used in a derogatory way, or in a literal sense, to describe many thread starters. Maybe I am?

Point being....spend more than 30 seconds researching whatever topic it is you'd like to know about on VST before you whine and moan about whatever it is. Good grief. There is an excellent search feature that will lead you just about any where you want to go on here. So many common questions covered 10 times a day, and a new thread for each. They always tend to clutter up useful topics that end up on page 2, 3, 4, etc which in turn become irrelevant unless someone thinks to SEARCH.

Also, listen to your surgeon.

Don't come on here looking for support to do something stupid like jump ahead in the diet or "what to do if I go out with friends...". Don't be ashamed, tell the truth, eat your 3 bites, and let your friends get over the fact that you had surgery. If you have to be private about it for fear of what others think, then you should reevaluate your priorities. Not saying you have to tell the world, but don't hide it. Embrace the fact that you're changing yourself. Worry about YOU, not THEM. The heck with what everyone thinks. This is time to rebuild yourself. If your friends and family can't handle that, set them to the side. Don't let them hold you back or get you down, or make you feel inferior.

I may come across like a butthole, and so be it, but this is the best thing I have ever done for myself. Shed the bad in everything and embrace the good. Keep it real. Don't sugarcoat or coddle and just do the damn thing. People want to be reassured of everything they do, and that's fine, but do yourself and everyone else a favor and look for that reassurance already posted in the same topic 241924 other times. Solve the problem you have by listening to your doctor, or then, if you want some affirmation, read the 29147123 topics people have already started about the SAME DANG THING....if you have something new, don't sweat it, post up, this thread has nothing to do with you.

Justin, just reading your profile; looks like you are a little over 4 months out, down 117 lbs. You look great, by the way. But it's too bad you feel so much hostility towards others who haven't gotten to where you are.

I sincerely doubt it's hostility, so maybe making assumptions isn't the best thing to do... It's peoples lack of actually trying to find information on this or other websites before jumping in and asking the same question someone else did 20 minutes ago.

And again, this is the RANT forum... don't like his rant, don't read it, move on.

The redundancy topic is also a redundant topic. No disrespect, but I don't think anyone cares what topics annoy you.

I came into this forum, initially, looking for research - and, sometimes, finding answers to questions I didn't know I had. I didn't need to post questions because I read the same information OVER and OVER on here. I'll admit, this site's usefulness post-op is waning, as the "OMG - I'm three days out and I ate pizza...is that bad?!" and "I have pain - why?" questions dominate the threads around here. Not only is redundancy an issue in this forum, but common sense seems to be lacking as well. In the words of someone way more famous than me, "ain't nobody got time for that."

Any questions, concerns, etc. I had were THOROUGHLY vetted through the internet (all of it - not just this isolated support world) before taking further questions and clarifications to my doctor/nutritionist/PA. I have support through Facebook, friends on this site, real life family/friends, the support group I attend once a month, etc.

I'm with Justin on this one.

I don't mind your rant. Heck, I rant a lot in this here trailer court that my double-wide sits on.

I don't mind answering the same questions a multitude of times. It is a challenge for me to answer in a different way, use some humor, and be nice at the same time. Maybe that's why I am #3 in reputation points out of over 65,000 members.

Or it could be because of my stunning face...or the payoff...not sure..

I suppose because it is labeled as a support forum, people feel the need to wallow in self pitty and panic rather than take the time to try to figure out how to get out of it without drawing attention to themselves.

Um, that is really off target and not cool at all. Because it is a support forum people are using it to get "wait for it" support! It doesn't matter where or not its been asked. If they knew they wouldn't be asking. Some people do not understand how to navigate forums or do a search. Some people as said above need one on one interaction. Nothing wrong with that. If you have already been there and done that move on, scroll on down to the first obscure never before seen topic (good luck with that one). Speaking of redundant if I'm not mistaken I've seen post extremely similar to this OP many many times so..........

Um, that is really off target and not cool at all. Because it is a support forum people are using it to get "wait for it" support! It doesn't matter where or not its been asked. If they knew they wouldn't be asking. Some people do not understand how to navigate forums or do a search. Some people as said above need one on one interaction. Nothing wrong with that. If you have already been there and done that move on, scroll on down to the first obscure never before seen topic (good luck with that one). Speaking of redundant if I'm not mistaken I've seen post extremely similar to this OP many many times so..........

See, it's already rubbing off on me.

Gmanbat....hilarious.

Thought I'd put this out there before Susan comes along to end this thread...

Forum rules;

5. Members will treat each other with courtesy and respect, especially when they disagree. We understand that bright, intelligent and educated people may not always agree, but personal attacks in the form of insults, abusive language or other means of obvious harassment will not be tolerated.

****Do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult others. You can respectfully disagree with the message or topic, but you cannot attack the messenger. This includes attacks against the user’s spelling or command of written English,

or belittling a user for posting a duplicate topic.****

If you are attacked by another user, and you reciprocate, you will also be subject to the same consequences. Defending yourself or a friend is not an excuse! Do not take matters into your own hands – instead, use the Report Post link to report an attack and we will be happy to handle the situation for you.

Aww, c'mon, can't we all just be friends..........

End it then

Thought I'd put this out there before Susan comes along to end this thread...

Forum rules;

5. Members will treat each other with courtesy and respect, especially when they disagree. We understand that bright, intelligent and educated people may not always agree, but personal attacks in the form of insults, abusive language or other means of obvious harassment will not be tolerated.

****Do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult others. You can respectfully disagree with the message or topic, but you cannot attack the messenger. This includes attacks against the user’s spelling or command of written English,

or belittling a user for posting a duplicate topic.****

If you are attacked by another user, and you reciprocate, you will also be subject to the same consequences. Defending yourself or a friend is not an excuse! Do not take matters into your own hands – instead, use the Report Post link to report an attack and we will be happy to handle the situation for you.

I have reported posts a few times where i felt attacked or mocked and never heard anything back. The one time I did hear back I was told they had the right to speak their mind and it was their opinion.

I guess when its my opinion or opinions I agree with its wrong and I cant defend my opinion or the opinion I agree with when attacked.

Good to know.

I guess I need more rep points.

End it then

Ok

I'm sure she will be along soon...

I appreciate the report

She doesn't stop all the women from posting in the "Men only" room, why should rants be different? Isn't that what this particular forum is for?

She doesn't stop all the women from posting in the "Men only" room' date=' why should rants be different? Isn't that what this particular forum is for?[/quote']

I'll give you that! Trust me she tries but it's hard to catch every one that pops up.

It's weird since that rule the men have done pretty good, the women? Not so much...

Oh, And op I don't need to report you, someone will be offended by your remarks and do that.

I'll give you that! Trust me she tries but it's hard to catch every one that pops up.

It's weird since that rule the men have done pretty good, the women? Not so much...

Oh, And op I don't need to report you, someone will be offended by your remarks and do that.

But this is the Rant and Rave room. This is where we should post this type of post. Just like the religious post posted in the anything goes room. People didn't like that post but nothing was done because it was posted in the right area.

So this is posted in the Rant and Rave section and people don't like it. So why should this be taken down or removed or have him reported?

But I guess its a double standard?