Ok, I have to write about the events of last night. I have been having pain with my back lately. I have a herniated disk and sciatica that kinda comes and goes, well right now I think it has moved in for an extended visit. Anyhow, it hurts like a beeeatch so I finally had to break down last night and go get my vicodan prescription filled. I went to wallgreens cuz it was like 9:30 when I realized that I would never be able to sleep without a pain pill and wallgreens is open 24 hours. So I pull in in my husbands big quad cab 4X4 Dodge ram truck which is hard pressed to fit perfectly in a conventional parking place, but it does, it just takes some doing. anyhow I was a little crooked but the truck tires were all inside the lines so I got out of the truck to go inside and some guy in his middle to late 50's with balding hair and a mean looking face is walking out to his car which is parked next to the truck but still has about 3 1/2 feet of clearance. So anyway this f-er says "what the F is wrong with you ya fat bitch don't you know how to park that thing? You would think that you'de have practice what with you havin to maneuvere your fat ass around all the time. How the F am I gonna get my car out?..." I turned aroud and look at his car and there was plenty...and I do mean plenty of room there and I go " Ummmm I think you can get out just fine and if you can't you don't need to be driving" Then He goes "shut the F up you fat F get your fat ass over here and move your F ing truck." I just kept walking into the store and he goes "You better hope your truck is in the same shape you left it in when you get back" and when I was going throught the door he goes "lets see if you can fit your F ing fat as throught that door ya fat C---" I got inside and I was so shook up that it took me 2 minutes to think that I better go out there and get his license number and make sure he wasn't vandalizing my truck. I picked up a pen and went out with my date book open and there he was parked behind my truck and just stepping out of his car. As soon as he saw me he got back in and with the window down he was yelling "What the fuck is your problem ya fat bitch did ya think I was gonna do somethin to your F ing truck...well you better be scared ya fat C---" After I went and looked at the side of the truck I went to the back of his car and wrote down the plate number. He was like "Your a F ing cow ya know that? Do ya think that scares me ya fat ass bitch? Finally as I walked by I turned around about three feet from his face and flipped him off. He goes Ya know what bitch that's the kinda shit that gets fat bitches killed" and I just kept on walking into the store. Once I was inside he drove off and I called the police. They came out and just told me there was nothing they could do about it because he didn't outright threaten me. The police woman who showed up was kinda laughing about it and saying theres really nothing we can do about someone yelling obscenities at you unless we actually hear him, then we could charge him with disorderly conduct. As far as the threats she said he would have to say "I am going to vandalize your truck" or "I am going to kill you" in order for it to be taken as a threat.

I was so angry and in shock about all of it that I just left after giving my useless information and the useless License number to the store manager who at least pretended to be sincerely concerned about it and she didn't laugh about it like the female police officer had. The police woman was not even interested in taking down his license plate number!

I was so appalled by this and I thought God I am so naieve to have been taken by surprise like that ...I mean when I was younger, in early 30's and I looked about 23 or 24 because fat girls always look youger just because we look like babies with our moon faces...anyway I expected youger men to treat me badly because it had happened a number of times and I wasn't even that big then...like a size 16 or so. What I'm saying is that as a 42 year old mother of 2 almost grown children and as a professional I just don't encounter these kind of men in my daily life ever and I was totally bowled over by the unprovoked evil and hatred this man showed. I am still reeling from it right now! It really shook my already shaky self image and I am now trying to regain my composure and my pride.

Wow.....wonder what goes through the stupid head of the person who wakes up next to him every morning?

How nasty, sorry you had to experience that. I've been laughed at by men and women because of past appearance but never verbally attacked like that.....so sorry.

Carol

I hate that this happens to us but it has become more common than we would like to believe. Although I appear strong at the time I'm called a fat bitch, it tears me up inside.

To the jerk offs calling me names, I have a myriad of comments:

"I may be fat but you're and asshole and I can always diet!"

"If you think I'm fat now you should have seen me a year ago."

"Sorry about your penis."

And of course my fave:

"Kiss my ass you MF!"

"Your Mama" always seem to strike a cord, especially if you can say it calmly with one brow lifted, then smile.

I too am a fan of "Your Mama!" I see it's starting to make a come back!

I hate stuff like this. I had one where these 2 little kids were saying all sorts of stuff, using most of the same words your offender used. The worst part was that their mother didn't do anything about it and just told me to ignore them.

I always think in my head about what I might say the next time something like that comes up.

Today there was a truck that drove by me as I was walking that honked a bunch of times. I have to wonder if he and his friend were doing that cuz I'm overweight, or because they thought I was cute, lol.

I'm so sorry that you had to listen to some simple minded person. Please don't let it get you down, I know that's easier said than done, but if you let it get you down then he has won and there is no way in H... that he deserves to win. "HUGS"

And other people wonder why we are fat. Just because we're bigger than other people doesn't mean we can't be hurt. As someone said before, hope he burns in hell. Linda

I am only 20 lbs from goal but still regard myself as a big person because if it wasn't for the band I would be....and I never want to lose sight of how it use to be, it helps me to stay where I am today.

As a big person it hurts so much when these small minded ignorant creatures treat us like that. Why, because of size, do they think we are so inferior to them and deserving of that kind of treatment. Why do we get treated like second class citizens just because of size?

My overeating or choice of foods has never threatened anyone else's life...so what's the big the big deal. I never lashed out like that to a smoker who would blow smoke right in my face when sitting at bar or in a restaurant....but I would have more reason to then what this guy just did to you.

I could go on and on but this A-hole doesn't deserve my effort.

Carol

I am so sorry for your devastating encounter. I can only hope that divine retribution will find its way into that guys life but never, never let someone else’s ignorance make you doubt who you are and what you are about.

I'm with Spydr. I once had a lady call me a fat a$$ and I just turned and looked at her and smiled. I then told her that I might be fat, but it was her I felt sorry for because at least I could lose weight and what was she going to do about her ugly face.

Tricia H

Sorry you had to put up with that friggin' "man" but I think Bullwinkle had the best comeback! :clap2:

I have often said I would love to have a "rammer" car. Would have come in very handy in that situation. Don't let him get to you. He's obviously not even worth it. What an unhappy ol' "man" he must be.

i have to give you credit ,because i would of been in jail for beating the shit out of him.

first of all hugs to you!

secondly, i am reminded of fried green tomatoes when kathy bates rams her car into the one belonging to the teenie boppers! you may be fat but you have more insurance!

next, after watching one of my favorite tv shows, my name is earl, this man will be bitten in the ass by karma! one day he will do this to someone who is not as nice as you are and he will be beaten to a pulp, you will drive up in your truck, at your goal weight and be able to spit in his face!