Guys,

I had a nice NSV the past week or so. I have been wearing my favorite cologne for a while now but all of the sudden women are stopping and saying omg you smell so good, five separate times this week alone. Don't remember that 60 lbs ago. May be my body chemistry is changing with the weight loss. I am seven weeks out. I'll take it.

I know getting positive attention as you become healthier and more fit is great' date=' but does it make you angry or resentful at all? How do you adjust if you are feeling that? I'm still preop (and married) so I won't be shopping or anything but I wonder if suddenly being "good enuff" for attention will bring me down. Thoughts?

Amanda Rae[/quote']

I heard something recently... Forgiveness is giving hope for a better past. It's been about embracing the present and moving forward. I was bitter pre op. Finally did this for me. Done with negativity in my life. That's been a process. I am married too. Changes have not been easy but so worth it.

I heard something recently... Forgiveness is giving hope for a better past. It's been about embracing the present and moving forward. I was bitter pre op. Finally did this for me. Done with negativity in my life. That's been a process. I am married too. Changes have not been easy but so worth it.

That's great! I am a happy positive person by nature so I'm optimistic I can hold onto that through my journey.

Amanda Rae

Hate to say it bro' date='I don't think it's a body chemistry thing as much as I think it's because they find you more attractive as you lose weight & become more confident. They are using the cologne as an excuse to engage you and get closer.

Just my opinion, but it's not a bad thing either.

BTW, Issey Miyaki por homme is my preferred scent.[/quote']

I totally agree!!!! With the preferred scent as well! I love to smell Issey Miyaki on men. Whew!

Agree with OTR' date=' it's all you chad!

To illustrate: I'll never forget at a social event with work people a year or two back when I decided to put on some Gio. A couple girls actually asked me "what's with the cologne?" and one followed up with "who are you trying to impress?" (And it was just a spritz, I didn't overdo it, I promise). When I asked how they thought it smelled, I was given a very lukewarm response.

Not two weeks later, I heard them going on and on about one of the newer guys at work (who, admittedly, was clearly much taller, thinner and better looking than me... but older and MARRIED!), and in particular they liked the way he smelled. I asked point blank, "you mean the way he overdoes the cologne at work?" (it was really over the top), and they were like "oh my god yes!" and "I LOVE the way he smells!" (in that I want to be on him tone, you know what I'm talking about). Anyway, the point was: HE WORE THE EXACT SAME COLOGNE AS ME!

Damn I can't wait to be thin. (Sadly, though, the sleeve won't make me taller...). Anyways, way to go chad, keep it up![/quote']

Sorry that happened. As a woman I've had similar experiences. I hope that those kinds of hurtful events from my past make me more compassionate in the future. In that sense you'll be far more attractive to women because your heart will be kinder than most. I mean that genuinely, not as a consolation. A lack of depth and understanding of what others go through is a deal breaker.