So I am self-pay and I'm feeling really guilty for draining our savings account for me to have this surgery. My husband seems supportive and just wants me to be happy. But I just feel so selfish!!

I have felt this way. I have been trying to talk my husband into upgrading his boat just so I don't feel as though I have profited in some way. It is weird, I know he is so supportive and behind me 100% but I still got moments where I think "wow, did we really spend all that money on me?" I don't regret the surgery, not for a nano second, but I do struggle with it at times.

You can't put a price on your health ladies. Your partners' aren't worrying about it, so you should treat it a bit like a compliment - thank them for their support

Turn it around - if he was in your situation would you be supportive of his having a VSG (or any other life saving operation) even though it would use your savings?

If you would, then understand he feels the same way, accept it, let go of the guilt, and go for it

Its just money guys! You shouldn't feel guilty. You can always save again. If u managed to save that much money im sure you can do it again don't worry be happy

Just think of all the money you will save in food over a year! I know I probably spend as much as what the surgery is going to cost eating out at restaurants and stuff associated with food.

Thank you guys... It's so true and I am so happy! I will just do what he wants and that's just be happy