I just need to vent. I'm having surgery Wednesday. My mother has been very supportive through this whole thing. I live with her so we're very close. I've been very private with my decision to have surgery. I feel it's my business and Ill choose who knows. I've told a few of my best friends and a few family members. Most of my family doesn't know. So my mom takes it upon herself to tell her friends and acquaintances what is goin on they are not even her close friends, just friends she sees once in a while. A few are very judgmental and I just don't want them knowing. She can't understand why I'm angry at this, but its like its MY business! I don't want everyone knowing! She can't see she's wrong in this. I'm a very private person and I've only chosen to tell a select few, why would you think it's okay to blab to all these people I don't even hardly know? One of her friends is a vegan who works for a health food store and specifically I didn't want her telling him because he's one of those people who are extremely opinionated. He lectured me for half an hour one day when I told him I was taking Vitamin D supplements. I just didn't want to deal with more judgement. God knows I get that ENOUGH as a morbidly obese person!

I just needed to vent. Overall I am excited for surgery! Just a little stressed and annoyed today.

First' date=' good luck on your surgery Wednesday! We will be here rooting for you!!!!!

Second, I understand as I have only told a few people. My sister and my husband are very supportive. I decided to tell my brother (my parents are deceased). Well, that was a mistake, his first sentence was "well I don't mean to be critical", I almost hung up on him. He then proceeded to tell me complications that his wife's sister had last year (she had the full gastric bypass). I tried to explain to him that there are fewer complications with the sleeve and just decided to let it go. I have decided that if he brings it up again, I will tell him that if he can't be positive, then I will not talk with him about it. He is Mr. Exercise who thinks it should be easy, however he has never been overweight in his life.

It was a lessoned learned, I will only tell people who care for me and will be supportive!

I love that we can vent here!!!![/quote']

Crickee...I tell people my horror story quite regularly when the subject comes up. That's not being unsupportive...I think it's just the opposite. I wouldn't share it if I didn't care. People who have had a major negative experience normally want the people they know to not experience the same trauma as they have. When I share my experiences I'm hoping to open people's eyes to the fact that this isn't a low complication, easy peasy thing to do. It's major surgery and if someone I know is having major surgery, I want them to be prepared for anything that might come up, and to be sure they know the good and the bad that can come from their choice. I tell people to be sure to weigh the choice and be sure they KNOW everything they need to weigh

Iggychic - I hope I didn't offend you, I have read the stories of complications on here and understand completely what could happen. We are all in this journey together and the info shared here is invaluable! Thanks for reminding me that there is another side to the critical remarks people can make.

No no not at all dear. I'm just saying that sometimes people don't understand the surgery so when you toss it out, they panic, not out of lack of support...but out of caring!

I love how respectful everyone on here seems to be (I'm pretty much a newbie) and so supportive of one another!!

LOL not very internet like huh? I should have been utterly offended and called crickie three bad names

But that's so DONE TO DEATH lol

Teeheee!! "Un-internet-like" is right!!

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