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This day has just been aweful. I went to my mom's to hang out this morning an she was baking choclate chip cookies! Um hello!!! I am on an all liquid diet, what are you doing??? Did she not realize the strength it took to watch that! I just feel like crying. I HATE going to the gym. I feel so out of place. I look like the cow in a field of twigs. I want to cancel my membership and just work out at home but my hubby wants me to keep going. It is so frustrating! My son who is two keeps trying to share all of his food with me (sweet that he is sharing, but frustrating that I can't eat it) and it breaks my heart. I just want to run away today. Sorry for the deppressing rant, had to get it of my chest!

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It sucks period. Thank god it gets better! Hang in there.

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I know what you mean. I lost my keys and can't find them. Luckily, I found a spare key.

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You wanted the Cookies, but you didn't eat them... You don't want to go to the gym, but you do... Your 2yr old wants to share his food, get creative and pretend to eat it, they are easily fooled... Sounds like you should be celebrating these as victories and sign's of strength, that previously you would have caved in for.

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The gym thing I totally understand!!! But you know the more weight you lose the more people are going to start cOming up to you and complimenting you! Believe me, I loved talking to the female body builders at my old gym and they were always so helpful with new exercises!

I know it's super hard but you know what- if anyone is looking at you they're going "wow, I'm soooo proud of that person for trying!" gym junkies are happy ppl and happy ppl don't judge like that :)

The cookie think is awful, but just enjoy the frustration (I know, I'm a weirdo) but - even when you're sleeved you won't be able to eat them for a longtime! And even then they may be too sweet for you and you won't like them! Relive that frustration you felt and use it to remind you why you're doing this! You're doing this so next time there's Cookies baking you will be like a child again- you will be happy to lick a beater or split a cookie with your son!

You know, sometimes I would get soooo obsessed with my food I couldn't dream of sharing it with anyone, I would hide it and eat it in secret so no-one could take it off me, if mum made brownies I couldn't enjoy even one because I sims wanted the whole pan to myself- noone else deserved or wanted them as much as I did!

Your son is still young enough to engage in normal food behaviours! He hasn't experienced deprivation and hasn't developed compulsive or maladaptive eating behaviours! By doing this you are ensuring that he will always feel comfortable sharing his food with you! As others have mentioned in other threads you will probably become a "cheap date" sharing a bit of hubbies and sons meals rather than ordering your own!!!

I'm so excited and proud of you! The sleeve is to stop you eating and eating but even without it, even for that one moment you worked your mind! You have started an incredie journey! I'm so proud of you and I know your son and hubby are too!!!

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Reminds me of the time I had my wisdom teeth taken out. I came home and my mom was frying chicken for me. Thanks a lot. Couldn't eat it.

Cookeeeez is right, people at the gym aren't sitting around thinking "she doesn't belong here," they are really just thinking about their own business. They usually work out regularly and have seen all manner of people come and go in the gym and they really don't care. But they are usually the ones who know what they are doing and are happy to share. They are just people who like to be healthy and appreciate your efforts to do the same.

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