Can I ask that people, rather than posting dramatic "goodbye" posts, just PM the people that they care about?

I am really over seeing the "Goodbye I have found support elsewhere" type posts. If you have found better support somewhere else, fantastic! I am really pleased you have have found somewhere that is a better "fit" for you. I really am.

But posting about it like that does little, other than make the remaining members ask why you left. And "what is going on now".

/rant

Goodbye posts do seem a bit dramatic. Especially because it seems some people do not actually leave. Almost seems more like an attention getter than an actual goodbye.

Almost like Nixon when he said, "You don't have Dick Nixon to kick around any more" after he lost the 1962 race for governor of California.

well said aussie chick !!!!!!!!!!!!

Maybe she was just looking for someone to give a dam.

I thought she posted it because it was easier then PMing a whole heck of a lot of people. I wasn't bothered by it at all.

Again, if you don't want to read it, then just don't read it!!

I'm sure, Carol. We all want someone to care about us. Mom and dad, siblings, children.....FRIENDS.

I'm sure, Carol. We all want someone to care about us. Mom and dad, siblings, children.....FRIENDS.

Very true but if you would of read the way some of these people talked to her you would probably leave too. Sometimes you say things like I'm leaving to see if anyone really cares.

Wow, people sure sound a bit harsh.

I've been away for a bit...what the heck is going on around here?????????

Leenerbups, SOS....

I prefer it when people announce their intention to leave LBT. Even though they may not know me well enough to PM me personally, I may have received inspiration or assistance from something they've said and I'd like to opportunity to say farewell. Particularly when they've found a better method of support - that way I can find out what it is and if it's something I can use too.

Dianchef is right - if you don't want to read it, move on. What's the big deal?

I see the "So long" type threads when I hit the new post button. I don't even read it. I am just getting sick and tired of seeing it in the new post's list. Are you saying I need to stop reading thread titles?

The if you don't like it dont read it argument will not work in this case. I am just sick of seeing the titles.

Ya Im annoyed by the dramatic farewells too. Right on Aussie Chick. LOL people can take your suggestion or leave it I guess, but if you can stop anymore of that blatant annoying woe is me, im the victom stuff .. I say yay. I come here for lap band support not a soap opera. I barely want to type this post as it might perpetuate some kind of drama lol so this is the last I will say anything on this thread. Seriously.

Leenerbups, SOS....

I hear you, Randy.:phanvan

I'm still a newbie and am poking in and out while I wait for my date, but I agree with AC. I hate the "I'm leaving the boards" threads - not just here, but everywhere. (No finger pointing from Fat Nat!) On one board I was on just a few weeks ago this guy made a HUGE deal out of needing some time away from the boards, and he had to do some soul searching and recenter himself. He left a long confusing and vague post about why he was leaving and alluded to the person/people who hurt his feelings. This chump was gone for TWO DAYS, then was back posting the same crap (links to doctor's sites, band rules, etc. etc.) that he always posted. I thought WTF? He didn't need a break, he needed some attention.

That's one of the reasons I left that board, by the way. And I didn't even post an "I'm leaving" thread. I just left.

But that's my issue - I agree, I don't like the threads, I usually don't know the people, and most of the time I don't know who/what/where/when/why they decided to leave - so I don't go into the threads. No sense in clicking in to contribute to the drama, just begone already. So long, see ya, wouldn't wanna be ya!

JMHO,

Nathalie

I think it just comes down to personallity. For a lot of the people who leave and have been in a community for a long period they may have too many acquaintences to contact them individually.

Text and tone is difficult to read in text, and what might be just a cheery informative message and a wave goodbye, can be seen as a snotty "I'm taking my ball and going home".

I have no doubt that LBT gets back on a fully even keel and continues to provide the support it always has.

Let me give you a little bit of irony. I don't like posts about the practice of posting goodbye notes, any more than I like the goodbye posts themselves.

Confused? I am! :puke: