Yesterday I went to a funeral and because I knew it would be an all day, knock out, drag down affair (person died young and tragically) I packed food for at least a snack and a meal. I had a small pack of nuts and a turkey/cheese Lunchables. Like many of us, I also have a schedule I have to keep to get in my fluids and Protein so I pulled out my pack of nuts on the way to the cemetery and starting eating. Everyone wanted some. I already felt bad when I didn't offer, but I was keeping my goals in mind. So I had to give some up. Same thing with the Lunchables... Of course my protein was a bit lower than what I was shooting for at the end of the day. Mind you, these are people who know I've had surgery, but they have no concept of protein counts, scheduling, etc. I don't think anyone does unless they experience WLS.

How do I tell people no without #1 telling my business if they don't know or #2 not seeming selfish?

Take extra when you'll be in a social situation where sharing might be expected.

Well, you can just say no nicely and inform them that you are on a strict diet that you must adhere too. Don't get into any particulars. If they ask what kind of diet you can say a diet that is high in protein and low in fat or something of that nature. Hopefully that will keep the noisy's out of your business !!

If they are rude enough to ask to share when you have not offered, be blunt enough to say no!

I always say that I can't share because I am logging my portions and need to maintain my serving sizes.

I take logging my food pretty seriously, so if it is someone that has been around me any length of time, they know I log my food and portion sizes.