M just so frustrated and needed to hear from someone if they have experienced it. My surgery is 6/25 with Dr Garcia in TJ. I have not told anyone except my spouse. My work thinks I'm having GYN surgery. Today I told my best fried who was horrified. She is about 5'5 and 300 lbs. I thought she would be supportive but all she could say was how losing weight won't make me happy and it isn't safe to have surgery in Mexico where I could die. She thinks TJ is a @hithole. Mg hubby was watching cooking channels today while my tummy was grumbling on my shakes and broth. Totally clueless. U don't expect him to support me either when I get home because he wasn't there to take care of me through two c sections, spinal surgery or our child in the hospital. I guess what I'm asking is how do other people deal with this nonsense?

Bury yourself in the forums. You'll get more support than you could even imagine! We're all here for you!

Hi Sleevers,

I have to vent

Im just so unhappy with my so called friends.

One in particular, she is a very obese woman,

She is treating me really bad, even went so far to say in front of one of my employees" oh she is a real slow loser" not like my daughter who had bypass last year. Really? I don't call losing 50 pounds in 2 1/2 months slow, GEES.

I also had the sleeve, not the bypass!

Her daughter had a larger margin of weight to lose than I do! It just makes me sad for these people who can't be happy for me, or act so darn phony around me

Thank you Sleevers for letting me vent, I knew some of you could probably relate!!!

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The way I look at it' date=' I am doing this surgery for ME! I don't need anyone's approval because I have my own personal reasons and issues I am tackling.[/quote']

I have found that we get what we expect.......I expected everyone would be completely supportive and they are....even people who don't know me well have told me they think that I am making the right choice...

My husband went out and bought me my first skinny outfit....sorry...bought him my first skinny outfit grin....my friends all got together and offered to pay for the surgery if i needed the help...we get what we expect....if we think that we will be judged we are....never matters what we are doing....if you have the theory of live in my shoes before you judge and you believe in your conviction..nothing and no one can stop you....it might just be me but if the support isn't there then they don't have a right to your time and energy.....

My son in law got scared....came to me and said mom please don't....I asked why? He answered and then I showed him....after the tears from fear he held ,e and said he was looking forward to loving half of me...

We get what we expect.....expect joy and happiness.....it's wonderful...be proud of yourself and others will be proud of you....