My aunt had gastric bypass surgery a year ago. She was a size 26 and now a 14. I had the sleeve done approx 1yr 2months ago. I was size 22 and now size 12-13... urgh.. I feel like a failure... as if I am in competition with my aunt now, I laugh about it but I truely feel like a failure!

oh this fat!!!! be gone!!!

Aw. I'm sorry you feel like that! I think it's easier said than done that "we are not supposed to compare progress to others." We all do to an extent! But really, now. 77 pounds gone is nothing to sneeze at and you've got to feel like a million buck, right? I'm sure you've inspired your share of people too! (you've inspired ME!) I can't wait to shed 77 pounds! Hang on to the positives whenever you can!

How can you feel like a failure, you are smaller than her? You are doing fantastic!

You're doing great! I'm STILL looking forward to getting in a 12 and wondering if I'll even be able to go smaller. Dont' let your aunt's success sabotage your success. YOU are awesome!!!

I know it's hard, but you need to stop comparing yourself to your aunt or anyone else! You need to look at YOUR accomplishments! You've lost 77 lbs! That is AMAZING!! You've gone from a size 22 to a 12! That is AWESOME! You probably have more energy than before and are healthier than before. That is TOTALLY WONDERFUL!! You need to look at you & not others. We are all different. Even if you both started at the same weight, same age, same height, and EVERYTHING the same, it would still not be fair to yourself to compare. We all lose at different rates. We all fit into clothes differently. We all lose in different parts of our bodies at different times. Please don't compare. Just focus on yourself and realize what an awesome accomplishment you have achieved!!

BTW, am I the only one hearing Guns and Roses every time I see this thread title?

aw thank you all for the support. I have a friend who had the gastric bypass done and in a year she lost 150lbs, but that was because she was 300+lbs. I feel bad, but I want to tell her "well that was because you were way bigger than me, so shut up!" but I am polite and say "I had the sleeve and that works different, plus my bmi was less than yours" lol.

BTW, am I the only one hearing Guns and Roses every time I see this thread title?

WHEN I WROTE THIS... that is exactly what played in my head!! my fav band back in the day was GUNS N ROSES!!!! lol

I still love GnR!!!

aw thank you all for the support. I have a friend who had the gastric bypass done and in a year she lost 150lbs' date=' but that was because she was 300+lbs. I feel bad, but I want to tell her "well that was because you were way bigger than me, so shut up!" but I am polite and say "I had the sleeve and that works different, plus my bmi was less than yours" lol.[/quote']

Sweetie, be happy for yourself, AND your aunt, AND your friend! How can you feel bad that everyone is getting thinner and healthier?

Um yes...I did have personalized plates way back in the day, Guns 90, baby! LOL

And you know what? With the sleeve I believe you have a slower, steadier loss but I also believe you have a much better chance of KEEPING IT OFF! Keep on keeping on! You can do it!

WHEN I WROTE THIS... that is exactly what played in my head!! my fav band back in the day was GUNS N ROSES!!!! lol