Hey people,

This is mostly just a rant but if any one has any thing to add please do. I have been obese my entire life. And it had become such a problem that I had surgery to help me overcome that difficulty.

My husband was a bean pole until we married. Since we got married he has steadily gained weight. He is now what is considered borderline "fat" not obese by any means. 190lbs 6ft. but he has a pretty big tummy, little to no muscle, the doctor told him to exercise and lose a little fat and gain a little muscle

Tonight i fried him 2 eggs for dinner, 3 slices of ham and 2 slices of buttered toast with a mug of chocolate milk. This is not a normal dinner,it was ment as a treat because I came home really late and to make up for it I made him one of his favorites. When he was finished he said he was still hungry. I asked him if he wanted me to cut him some fruit, or if he wanted a yogurt. No, instead he got a bag of chips and ate the entire bag.

He keeps complaining about how fat he's gotten. His brothers wedding is next month and his suit that we bought last year doesn't fit, we have to buy a new one. But yet every chance he gets he will eat something bad. Every time we go out to eat he stuffs himself until he's sick. He eats everything his mother wouldn't let him have when he lived at home, every chance he gets.

To boot, his parents blame it all on me. It's me and my "American" food thats making him fat.

You think I would be more understanding because of my own problems. I know it's hard, and I understand it's hard. But I'm at a loss for as what to do or how to help him. It's hard enough dealing with my own weight issues and now this.......

but I know my man and hes to selfish for that. He rarely thinks of me (christmas and birthdays are a nightmare!)

I just scared BeBe from my sudden outburst of laughing!!

That was too funny!

When I was first banded, Mike would buy (every now and then) something bad. When I would question him WHY he brought it into the house, he'd say: "You're the one starving yourself - Not ME!"

No Cookies, chips, colas, junk stuff... and men think we're trying to starve 'em!

Paula, our husbands must be long lost twins or something.......hugo told me the other day he was "tired of starving in this house". I told him to go back to his momma's house then.:heh:

Hey there,

take your vacation to enjoy yourself and each other for a while away from home and work and his family...

Then when you come back you need to work on yourself and the best choices you can do for you and hopefully hubby will fall in with you and want the same things you want...

"If" he doesn't then finally there isn't so much you can do. I know when those I loved tried to 'help' me out and I didn't want to do what they said, I went into 'bite your nose to spite your face' mode and ate even more. Your hubby is an adult and he has to decided to make good choices for himself...no chips in the house is a good start and he should respect that for you...but if he goes and buys them and eats them elsewhere then not much you can do.

So start by enjoying some time out together and then see if that can transfer into a mutual support for health and diet when you get home.

Have a great vacation!

ahhh vacation....*drool* :biggrin1:

ahhh vacation....*drool* :biggrin1:

Yeeesh...can't take her anywhere *rolls eyes*....*hands Kat a drool bib*

thanks yoda, sorry bout that....