currently I am single...but while i think losing weight will open up a new pool of men, I am totally nervous....

the prospect of having sex with someone new with loose skin petrifies me

Has anyone had to tackle that?

It seems most of u are luckily married

I think everyone has it different with the loose skin. Some have lost a great deal of weight and not had problems with it, and I've seen some people loose 50 pounds and have saggy skin. As you lose weight just add in the toning exercises. Skin can shrink up to a year after weight loss also. I can't say I'll be dating after my sleeve since I'm happily married, but I'm sure things will get alot better for us anyway! Just make sure you are with someone you trust and stay true to yourself.

I too am single and undergoing the big change of being healthy. The advice that I keep getting is the same...don't date until you are done! Mainly because you will go through so many changes within yourself; there is the risk that the person you are dating may not like the "new you". I don't know about any of you out there but I have already had my fair share of horrible dates and experiences with plenty of jerks out there. I can only imagine I will somehow be able to find even more after I'm sleeved. I guess I can hold out the hope the changes I have already made in my life will somehow reflect in those that come into my life as well!

Good luck all!

you're not alone

currently I am single...but while i think losing weight will open up a new pool of men, I am totally nervous....

the prospect of having sex with someone new with loose skin petrifies me

Has anyone had to tackle that?

It seems most of u are luckily married

Don't worry. When you find the person you are meant to be with , he is not going to care about loose skin. I post a lot on the singles board on OH and everyone talks about this issue. The ones that have found bfs say their bfs don't care at all.

Losing weight is going to open up a whole new world so enjoy the ride!

I have the same issue. First all, I never dated when I was over 200 pounds... to embarrassed about my body. Once I got below 190, I joined a singles group & now that I am in the 160s, I find that I actually have men hit on me. It really kind of freaks me out, but in a good way, I suppose. While I'm excited about dating, I find that I really have a hard time imagining getting serious because of how much loose skin I have. I keep thinking maybe I should wait to start dating until after I've had plastic surgery... but that could be years. I just have to trust that if it is someone who really cares about me, they won't care that I have loose skin... and if they do, then I definitely shouldn't be having sex with them anyway.

I'm single too! I feel so out of the loop being like the only non-married person on here. I just got surgery 2 days ago. Let me know how the dating goes! You will be FINE. Don't worry about the loose skin.

Too bad none of you ladies live near me.. We could go out for a drinkie and get smiles from the men! haha