I've found a surgery center, I'm approved for financing, Husband has reservations about the $$, Have NOT told any family or friends because I'm nervous that they will not support me, or question me. I'm 80 lbs overweight with a BMI of 36.5.. AND pre-diabetic.There is no way I will ever lose 80 lbs and keep it off. but I'm afraid my family members (who are not overweight) will just tell me to get my butt on the treadmill. But I know myself, I know I'll never lose that much weight and keep it off on my own. I really want the sleeve gastrectomy.

Any advice on how to tell my family ??

Great advice Jeffrey !!! I agree....

I can relate... I have my surgery this Friday April 8. My husband knows and a very close friend or two. My parents know I was considring the sleeve months back and knew I was having insurance issues.

I'm a type 1 diabetic and my insurance does not support weigh loss surgeries for Type 1 diabetics...so I'm going to TJ Mexico to have it done.

I mentioned briefly to my mom about going to Mexico and I knew she was skeptical. So I did not tell her I was booked and confirmed.

I did not want her to worry.

My parents called 2 weeks ago and said they were going on vacaton for 2 weeks from April 2 - April 16. So they will be out of country the week before and the week after. It worked out great!

When they get back I'll done and home and have already completed my first week of liquid post-op diet.

I'll see how I feel about when I decide to tell tell them. I know I will not see them until 2 weeks post-op at the earliest. Unless I tell my mom when she gets home and she might want to some up to visit with me.

Rock on Jeffrey! Thank you for that encouragement! You are right, this is my right to privacy and no one should try to take that away from me!

Rock on Jeffrey! Thank you for that encouragement! You are right, this is my right to privacy and no one should try to take that away from me!

Well, I did it. April 18, Dr. Jawad (Ocala and Orlando). Pretty intense, but once I got away from the hospital, was down to Tylenol for painkilling. Doing ridiculously well. By Saturday even had lunch date with my husband and sipped a few spoonsfull of clear broth. I will admit--the first 48 hours were tough. Some nausea, but mostly doubt. Wondering what in the hell I did to myself. But, now, one week later, I am on top of the world and looking forward to my new life.

I would encourage people to research, research, research. Plan, plan, plan. I have found many fairly healthy Protein smoothies and powders which taste fine and work well for me. Take it slow--if you are good on Clear liquids but feel icky on full liquids, just take a step back. You can even get protein in Water now!!!

I have been at a friend's home without wireless, so will write more later. And, on the privacy issue? I decided to tell my two adult sisters, who were wonderfully supportive (as I knew they would be). They took my gall bladder during the surgery, which gives me an opening to let my potentially critical mother in on the fact that I have had surgery (I won't lie--just might parcel out the "truth" as it works best for me).

Good luck Sophie Jane. BTW--I am a middle ages, post menopausal woman in spite of the name.

Unless you have a medical condition which prevents you from having the surgery, my advice is to do it. This is a very safe procedure that is life-changing. Aside from looking 'better', you will be SO MUCH healthier.

The complications are very few, and the rewards are too many to count...that is what I tell my patients!!

So go ahead and 'take that vacation'...you will be glad you did.

Best of luck!!