So, here i am losing away at an interesting rate, however, hubbie has noticed that "I eat worse then a kid". . . well it's true sorta, I can't eat more then my 4 oz if that, 1 jumbo shrimp fills me up and then thats it for supper. . . i run off to go wash dishes or do something else. . . so now here is the problem. . . DH is starting with "you could have done this the normal way you know" "Why did you have to do it this way?" " If I would have known this is how it was going to be I would never have agreed to it" I tell him yes and amen, and remind him that it's done already and there is no reversing it, but boy i sure do hear about it a lot and it's getting REALLY sickening. . . so that is DH, then comes DD (darling daughter) with "I really don't like this" "I sure hope you don't get sick" " I hope when your older you can stop the weight loss and not keep losing" "This was not a good idea". . . .:cursing:errrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr I am getting so irked! I know that my family is well meaning, but it's really bothersome to me. . . any suggestions, I don't want to argue about something that is done already. . .I'm really sick of defending myself all the time over a irreversible situtation.

Edited May 11, 201016 yr by thinoneday

I don't know what issues I may or may not have with a romantic partner and how much I eat because I haven't been sleeved yet. However, I do already have some anxiety about reactions to the changes in me. Whenever I have managed to lose weight before in my life, my female friends have been ... less than supportive, shall we say. In fact, I never had straight female friends until I became obese. Until I took myself out of competition women were regularly cruel to me, I have to prepare myself for the possibility of the same happening again. Maybe women in their late 20s and early 30s won't be as cruel as women in their early 20s were.

I don't know what issues I may or may not have with a romantic partner and how much I eat because I haven't been sleeved yet. However, I do already have some anxiety about reactions to the changes in me. Whenever I have managed to lose weight before in my life, my female friends have been ... less than supportive, shall we say. In fact, I never had straight female friends until I became obese. Until I took myself out of competition women were regularly cruel to me, I have to prepare myself for the possibility of the same happening again. Maybe women in their late 20s and early 30s won't be as cruel as women in their early 20s were.

Interesting thought about women friends .. this has crossed my mind, too. We shall see. When is your surgery scheduled for?

Blue - Actually I just got my surgery date confirmed an hour ago, July 14th, eeeepp!!! I have a wierd job that keeps me in a sort of cocoon from regular life and society, I'm hoping I can use the 5 months after surgery to mentally adjust to the new me, to help me be prepared when I do go back to regular life in the States.

Congrats on the date! Keep us posted on everything

Blue - Actually I just got my surgery date confirmed an hour ago, July 14th, eeeepp!!! I have a wierd job that keeps me in a sort of cocoon from regular life and society, I'm hoping I can use the 5 months after surgery to mentally adjust to the new me, to help me be prepared when I do go back to regular life in the States.

Congrats globie!! Where are you getting it done?

jane x

Thanks guys! :thumbup1: I am having it done with Dr. Jossart at LapSF in San Francisco. I just got my pre-op packet this morning and jaysus! it's huge! I had no idea it would be so convoluted, I guess I was living in a fool's paradise that I would just pay have a few tests done and be ready for surgery - ha! Medical power of attorney, pre-registration by phone - which is made 100x more difficult by the fact that I'm on the other side of the world without easy access to a regular phone. Then I still have to have all the tests ekgs etc done in the days prior to surgery, so I have to manoeuver my flight itinerary, ack!!!!!

Sounds like quite a logistical nightmare but it will be worth it. All the very best wishes to you.

Jane x