I am fairly new to the forum, I have posted a few threads, but this one I am writing with tears in my eyes, im not writing to be kicked any lower, my husband and I have been going through a storm in our relationship, before the surgery I was an emotional eater I noticed yesterday I didn't wont to work out, I went to the gym and got on the treadmill for 15 minutes, but as I was walking I started thinking about the issues at home so I stopped and went home, I should have pushed pass the sadness and continued to work out but I didn't I was to down I wasn't motivated at all, today I noticed I have been snacking all day, and as I sat on the couch I cried and told myself this is how you use to handle your stressful situations, that's not you any more, I begin to encourage my self to stop snacking get up out of the dump and realize how far I have come, I have never done this in almost 6 months, but I do realize if you allow your self you can go back to old habits, I found out today the band is only a tool, that no it will not stop me from eating, I told myself I will not fail that I went through to much to get the surgery, im kinda glad this happen to me in a way because now I see that if I choose not to stay focused that I can go back to where I started, I just wanted to share this maybe it will help somebody else,

You're human. You're going through a tough time and no one expects you to be perfect. The truth is, you should actually be very proud of yourself. Some people have a bad eating day and blame everyone and everything else. Some even start whining how the band isn't working. But you are honest with yourself, not only about where you made a mistake but why you made the mistake. It may not feel like it right now- but that makes you a success.

I hope things improve with your husband. Just remember, you deserve to be healthy despite any turmoil in your life.

Hang in there.

Mis73 thank you so much after reading your response I feel a little better I needed to hear that, God bless you luv...

Well first i hope things get better for you! Second pat yourself on the back because you were able to stop before you went downward even more and that is not an easy feat for some ( myself included on some things) All you can do is dust yourself off and start moving forward again.. i wish you the best

thank you jenni30 I refuse to go back, I just never experienced that before, but sometimes it takes us bumping our heads, but it didn't take me but one time, and yes im praying things get better for us, and I know it will I just need to wait.....thank you and good luck on your journey also

Sometimes when we make changes in our lives it shifts everything. Our perspective on life and food and our relationship with food and even the people that surround us can't help but change and shift with us. Sometimes there are growing pains, and eventually we all adjust to our new position and way of being and we shed that old skin discard it and keep moving forward.

It's not always the easiest thing to do, and I commend you for taking care of yourself and reaching out to share your story and your feelings. I know it really helps me too when I am going through changes and challenges to be able to reach out to others who are understanding.

Feel better and keep taking care of you.

Lisa thank you, I promise after reading all these post I got up this morning and walked 4 miles on the treadmill and burned 470 calories, I woke up with new determination, and yes the situation in my marriage is still the same, but I have to look pass the problems and pray, and stay focused I learned a valuable lesson, and it will keep me focused through out my journey, but thanks to every one for help lifting my spirit, this forum is a great support and there are really some great people on here, <3

Just wanted to say I hope you feel better day by day, and I agree w others that I think you had great self awareness yesterday and that is something to be proud of.

aviva1979 thank you very much and yes I did have a great awareness and it did me some good, I snapped out of that very quickly, thanks for the encouragement and yes day by day it will get better thank you<3

Just to say you have great courage and honesty and I hope you work through the issues within your relationship. Life is not a bed of roses and we all go through difficult times and that's why I admire your honesty. Keep your head up girl you can do this!!!xxxxxx

Sarah thanks so much , how sweet

Ladyjordan. There is something that will always be BIG in us, and that is our heart. Take care, and stay strong.

stay strong and remember to focus on what got you where you are to begin with. I pray for your marriage and your strength. Life is always evolving. Take the best road possible during the journey.

Lady J i am glad you found your determination once again.. now to just find mine haha we got this girlfriend!