One of my co workers took this pic last week at my birthday celebration... as you see they found me the smallest cake in the world. But when I looked at the picture I noticed there really is a space between my legs which I have seen before but seeing it in a casual pic is pretty eye opening.

I know I have lost alot of weight... but as crazy as it sounds... sometimes I cannot wrap my head around it and still feel like the biggest girl in the room. I am trying hard to think like a thin person and I am not looking for sympathy so if you think I should shut up and pound sand I get that.

At 5'9" and 153 lbs, wearing a size 10 shoe.... I am not petite... and I never will be....I guess maybe that is what I need to start accepting it. I am curious if any other tall galls dealt with this body image issue?

you look great!

Yes,definitely. I'm 5ft 10 and about 148 at the moment. I got down to 130 whilst I was having chemo and was feeling great - truly I was so sick mentally at that point because I looked absolutely awful by all accounts - but I was finally beginning to feel acceptable. My body made its way back to a healthy weight and I've really struggled because I'm a big girl again. I feel large next to other women even if theyre significantly overweight. I envy petite and curve because I'm large, athletic etc.

I would love not to be "big". I am a fairly fine boned build (think runner) too so curves are not for me - any weight is just flab, not shape.

But you're right, I just have to accept it, it isn't going to change.

Congrats on your success! My aunt was a tall woman and thin and also very beautiful. She seems to know she's beautiful because she acted like it to my face but I realize now that she had some issues that she never let slip to me. My mother, who was her best friend (she married my mom's brother), told me that my Aunt hated being tall and felt large sometimes. Even though to everyone else she was thin and beautiful. I was really surprised by that but it goes to show you that everyone has things they don't like or feel insecure about. You are not weird for feeling that way and I think we all get it. I am more muscular than I like and wish I were more dainty sometimes too but that's just the way I'm built. My parents were both college/elite athletes and develop muscle quickly and I am the same way genetically. The only issue with that is that muscle turns to fat easily too when it's not "honed" lol. And being that I'm a female I don't particularly like being muscular.

Girl, you look GREAT!!!!!!!!! Your weight is appropriate for your height. You look healthy. I am 5'8 and my goal weight is 165lbs (221 lbs now). I am laughing because the other day, I was just thinking "I can't wait to see space between my legs". Happy Belated Birthday!!

You look great! So happy in the pic. Congrats!

Floridays, you look amazing! You are one of my inspirations! I'm not quite at goal yet, but getting close, and I had a similar moment to you just the other day. I was dressed in my exercise pants which are quite form fitting (holds in the loose skin so I can exercise more easily) and I noticed in the mirror that little gap at the top of my thighs even with my legs together. I have never had that little air space between my legs! It's only at the top of my thighs, but still it was a huge moment for me!

Congratulations on your weight loss and happy (belated) birthday!

Kathy

I so get you!! I have been told I'm a big girl all my life. Now...just so you know...I used to be that height and weight exactly and you are now my goal weight. I'm currently 309 and my goal weight is 159! I can't wait for that space between my legs. About being the biggest girl in the room? Strap some 3" size 10 pumps on and strut your stuff...you're gorgeous!!

Simply beautiful.

Made me laugh! First time in my life that my legs don't rub together!! Its fabulous!! Congrats on your amazing loss. You do look wonderful. I hope you had a lovely birthday and many, many more to come.