Hello,

I am getting banned in January and I wanted to put this question out there. How do you answer questions to people who ask how you have lost the weight? Also, how do you approach the subject with someone you started to date after the band? Just curious.

You don't have to tell anyone about having surgery unless you want to.

Just say, I'm trying really hard to eat healthy and exercise, which is the truth.

As far as dating, same thing unless it gets really serious.

Best wishes!

I started dating an amazing man about 6 months ago, which was about 5 months after Lap Band surgery.

I was honest with him from the very start. In fact, I was even honest about how big I once once (over 400 pounds) and all the excess skin I now have because of the weight loss. He's also aware of how much I still have to lose.

I look at like this, if I have to hide parts of myself and life from a man so that he accepts me, then he's not worth my time. Accept all of me, my flaws and my strengths, or move aside and let me find someone who does.

For the record? We just moved in together a week ago and are very happy. He's VERY supportive of me in all that I do, including losing weight and being banded.

I'm glad I told him early on. It has helped him to better understand me along this journey and be supportive of me in the areas I need it most.

Just my experience.

I started dating an amazing man about 6 months ago, which was about 5 months after Lap Band surgery.

I was honest with him from the very start. In fact, I was even honest about how big I once once (over 400 pounds) and all the excess skin I now have because of the weight loss. He's also aware of how much I still have to lose.

I look at like this, if I have to hide parts of myself and life from a man so that he accepts me, then he's not worth my time. Accept all of me, my flaws and my strengths, or move aside and let me find someone who does.

For the record? We just moved in together a week ago and are very happy. He's VERY supportive of me in all that I do, including losing weight and being banded.

I'm glad I told him early on. It has helped him to better understand me along this journey and be supportive of me in the areas I need it most.

Just my experience.

I'm very happy for you Missy! All my best to you both

I tell people that I am on a high protein diet and working with a nutritionist. If the BF is serious and you trust him, tell him. He could turn out to be a big supporter.

Going into surgery, I didnt think I would tell many people, but you know it is nothing to be ashamed of or hidden at least for me. I have known some bandsters who havent told anyone and some who tell anyone with ears. I am comfortably in the middle and share openly with people. In terms of dating - i think it is something to be said once you know the person a bit more, just like most things I cant imagine it coming up on a first date, but I have found two of my best guy friends to be the most supportive of me versus some of my best girl friends. So I dont have many qualms about it. But again - that is just me and I think everyone is different and has the right to share or not share as they are comfortable! Best of luck - best decision I ever made for myself (5wks out)!