I had someone I hold dear make a catty remark this weekend. We had friends (I will call them mike and mary) over for dinner. These are our closest friends and we hang out all the time, cookouts, go camping, weekends at the beach, etc... I was standing at the stove and Mike said, "God Lianna how much weight have you lost? You are looking really good!". Before I could even reply Mary said, "Too bad you are just losing it from your boobs". I felt like I had been slapped in the face. I just said "I dont think I have lost 30 lbs of boobs" and laughed. But honestly this keeps replaying in my head and I cant shake it. I just felt blindsided by her remark. I still feel so defensive that I feel compelled to say I have lost 6 inches off my waist, 4 off my butt, and gone from a size 20 pant to size 16, (and only 1 off my chest, lol). She has always talked about my boobs "thats because you have big boobs, I'm glad I dont have to walk around with those, more than a mouthfuls a waste,etc.." I always shrug these remarks off. But I cant explain how sad I feel that someone I hold dear would feel the need make such a catty childish remark to me. She is also the ONLY person to not have made one single comment about my weight loss......up until that one.

I just need to vent and get this off my chest. My DH says to let it go, but really I am more than a little pissed, and hate to feel that way...this is her hangup, and I dont want to let it become mine.

Don't let a "Board with a wart" ruin your day! The "Little etti bitti titti comittee" was just jealous.

The "Little etti bitti titti comittee" was just jealous.

ROFL!! :clap2: :clap2: :clap2:

My sister will bust my chops about my boobs and I'll bust her chops about hers. We always wind up laughing so hard. I always tell her to put band-aids on her mosquito bites.... but we do it in love ROFLMFAO

I guess it has to be taken in context. Reading what you wrote, I wouldn't be offended at all. My friends and I joke like all the time. Are you sure she meant something negative by it?

If so, then talk to her about it. Best of luck!

Maybe I tend to overreact but that heifer would have gotten a face full of hot whatever was cooking on the stove. Moreover, that is NOT a true friend. I know how you feel. I found out that my maid of honor felt I didnt deserve to get married first, and to a good man because she was six years younger and 75 pounds lighter than I. That was hurtful to find out that she stood next to me with a fake ass smile wishing that my happiness would take a backseat to hers. Dont be surprised if her friendship shrinks with your waistline. Hang in there and forget her !!

Note to self: Don't ever ever EVER piss off Pageantnurse.

Ohhhh....I agree with the above!

Oh, she definitely wasnt joking. I told her I hadnt lost 30 lbs off my boobs and she said "well I can tell they look a lot smaller." Yet my DH says that look bigger because everything else is getting smaller. It is almost hilarious now that I think about it. I really think she is wishing that they WILL get smaller....or just go away altogher.

Anyway, thanks for letting me get it off my chest. And yes the pun was intended THIS time!

*DING DING DING DING* (echoing announcers voice) IN THIS CORNERORNERorner, THE INNOCENT BANDSTERSTERster. IN THE OTHER CORNERORNERorner, THE JEALOUS BITCHITCHitch. (IT'S A JOKE, PEOPLE....)

Honestly, lianna, she's jealous, she's protecting her family, her MAN! When you get the chance, put on the Lee Press on Nails (DropDead Red), go over and set her straight. Tell her you wouldn't have the (insert your opinions here) worthless, horndawg, loser of a husband of hers and that if she got some boobs, maybe she wouldn't have to defend her territory quite so often. *snap....snap...snap*

I agree - jealous! If she is a good friend I would talk to her, she may not realize that she is hurting your feelings. If it continues then you will have to re-think the situation. A friend of mine had gastric by-pass and at lunch one day someone else said that she was losing weight but not the "easy" way. The other girl said that there was nothing about gastric by-pass that was easy and if she could have done it any other way she would have. The 2nd girl backed up and realized what she said and how it might have sounded. End of conversation.

you know what they say, if you want to look thin, find a fat friend.

shes not a friend shes a jealous catty **** and someone who cant bear for her husband to notice someone. sounds like a very insecure "friend" to me.

I have been through something similar and that friendship just drifted away, I cant help wondering when I see her with her new found friend who is as big as i was pre banding and someone the old "friend" used to laugh at behind her back.

sounds like she is just insecure about her chest... maybe she needs surgery.

True friends stick around. I have had people make remarks like that to me and like Photonut said in her very wise post, they become just occasional friends.

Life is too short to put up with that kind of treatment. A true friend would never make you feel that way.

hugs and continued weight loss you hotty you.

sounds like she is just insecure about her chest... maybe she needs surgery.

:spit:

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Or you could say " ya know Mary, the boob thing is getting boring, can't you think of something else to say...

I agree with NJ! Looks like ole Mary has some major mammary issues. You could tell her, "In case you haven't noticed, I've lost weight in other parts of my body, too, and I'm feeling pretty good about it." Or something that gets across the message "I don't make fun of your nonexistent tits, so leave my girls alone!"

I was really struck by the unkindness of your friend's remark, and that she has given you backhanded remarks about your body before. Many people hide animosity or insults in humor, thinking that is an acceptable way of getting away with it.

In any case, it sounds as if your friend resents you in a "female way" and has for a while. Since you cherish your friendship, I would sit her down alone and talk to her about it. Get it out in the open so she can come clean about the jealousy and resentment she has toward you, and find out why and where it's coming from, so she can work on it and save your friendship. Let her know it hurts you and that you are noticing it, because believe me, as you lose more weight, this will get worse.

I hate to say this, but I have always judged my true friends by how happy they are for me when something good happens in my life. I think true love never resents anything good for a friend. True, loyal, loving friends, life is too short to spend with anything less than that.