Now that I am a baby bandie. seeking new way of life. now I need training to find a hottie!!!:biggrin1: figure it will take me as long to loose the weight as to find one lol I;m a emptynester and ready for "me" pampering, One reason I did this for my health, something i have wanted to do for years. just wasn't in the cards till kids were on their own as i am a single mom. I did a total change of career, love what I do make more money and decieded to take of me now. BUT I DON"T REMEMBER HOW TO FLIRT!!!:faint: there must be others out there that are in the same boat???:help:

yep i.m one of them though i'm probaly a good bit older than you after 30 years i' on my own for the past 6 and now the weight is starting to shift i was thinking along those lines myself but i met my ex when i was 16, and it's really daunting my kid's joke with me and say they'll take me out and show me what to do, but how do you step outside your comfort zone:eek:

oooooooooooooohhhh, this is a good one:clap2: . how to flift? I always found that being drunk helps. lol. j/k. well kind of kidding. I was in my last realtionship for eleven years so when I came out of it I was like eh:confused: ? for me I flirt best when I am happy with myself. that includes the way I look. but to be honest I don't really flirt I just act like myself. if he likes me then cool. if he doesn't then whatever. I only know how to flirt when I go out. when it comes to a more intimate setting. I am lost. so I guess I could use advice on how to as well. my best friend says that the best way to meet people is to not care what they think of you:cool: . I like that idea. I don't know if I will ever be that comfortable with myself. but I hope so. ok I am just going on and on now. but its a fun question.

Buy the book "Superflirt".

And a new pair of kick ass beautiful shoes. Then stand up straight and smile and think "Damn, I'm hot". And then you will be. It's that simple, really. It's all in the attitude you bring to the table.

Megan

Definitely....Buy a really great "kick ass" pair of shoes as Megan advised....Nothing llike them to put you in the "Hottie" zone!!

oooh new shoes, didn't think of that, !! I was ina joking mood, but in reality I think I am afraid of who will be the new me, and oooh to be in my twenties again!!! just if I begin to "look" for possibles, will I seem like an attack queen? lol thought it was a food for thought/

there is a book superflirt for real???

Get out there, bat your eyes, and just be yourself. A great personality helps.

BUT I DON"T REMEMBER HOW TO FLIRT!

Just wear some pink lipstick and show some cleavage...you won't have to flirt

Trust me, men are visual animals grrrrrrrowl

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Make it RED lipstick......

And there is no way I would EVER want to go back to my twenties. Tis better to take the mature path. Not nearly as many nerves to overcome. No reason to pussyfoot around, you both know why you're there. Heck, one or both of you might have a heartattack at any moment....LOL

To funny Randy. Life is to short!

Superflirt is a GREAT book when you're looking at getting back in the game. It has all sorts of body language stuff and tips. I found it very helpful when I first lost a bunch of weight and was getting hit on but didn't really know it. :-)

Now I'm a pro at flirting. I understand the power that women have through sexuality. It is a powerful thing and must be used carefully :-).

Megan

I know this sounds a little creepy, but anytime a woman speaks to a man the man interprets this as flirting. You ask the time... he hears..."she wants me"

So congratulations, you are probably a flirt already.

As soon as you are comfortable talking with strangers, a relationship can surface. Smiles are just more sincere and less sneer.

If you find a relationship before you are comfortable with social situations, chances are you have found someone who may try to take advantage...

(or a really great guy who is not social either)

Have fun! Oh, and Red lipstick helps too.

disclaimer: the above is strictly my opinion, but I am a verified flirt from way back and ANYONE who knows and/or loves me would tell you the same.

Lots of Luck at Love (or at least Lust)

FLIRT, did someone call my name. :kiss2: I am a natural at flirting, especially now that I am a hottie, he, heeee......

Everyone has given you great advice, just go out there and have fun, be yourself and make friendships. I have always found that a romantic relationship that begins with a friendship has more potential to become more...

That being said, I have to confess that the night I met my husband (at a bar) after being alone for two years without the male company my body so desired.. I decided to have a one-night stand. So when I met this handsome cowboy I went all the way and had my way with him. The next morning we said our goodbyes, he asked for my number and I thought, nice to have met you, it was fun... and I now I'll never hear from you again.. Well, guess what??? the handsome cowboy called me and wanted to go out again and here we are nine years down the road.. So much for one-night stands.. It was my first and my last...

Im defintily buying that book!

Im still kind of shy, so that holds me back and plus when all your friends are married or taken, none of them like to hang out at bars or go dancing anymore...thats where im at...I cant meet anyone If I dont get out there, its sooo much trouble tryin to talk your happily married couples out!!!