Ok, I have been tossing this idea back and forth. I have a lot of confidence in my surgeon and don't plan on leaving this earth any time soon. BUT am I jinxing myself? I wanted to write a letter to some loved ones "just in case". Yeah, I'm scared, but this is my choice, no one has pushed me into it. I want Lap-Band VERY badly but like with all surgeries, there may be complications. I wanted to write it to ensure if something happened, certain things would not go unsaid. Am I crazy? Am I jinxing myself? I was admitted into the hospital years ago and while filling out paperwork was asked if I had a will. EXCUSE ME! I was 19 at the time! I freaked out!!!!!!!!! I'm looking at possibly writing a letter, telling certain people just exactly how much I love them. Is this a bad idea? Am I totally over thinking this? Some posters make this sound so easy and I know once your through-it, it's "all gravy" but the anxiety before-hand is really getting to me. Maybe I'm just having an off day.... HELP!

No, you are not jinxing yourself. We should always make sure things are not left unsaid. This surgery is very low risk, but so is going to work or taking an airplane flight or any number of things we do everyday! I think it is a good idea (now that you mentioned it) to have a letter for each of our loved ones ALL THE TIME. In addition to trying to make sure we always part on good terms each day or go to bed only after we make sure those in our house know we love them, this letter is a great idea. I had my surgery on Wednesday and never thought of it. I wish I had. I think you should use this as an opportunity to make sure you have it on paper for the future. It probably won't be needed for this surgery, but it is inevitable that we will all come to that point. Your loved ones will appreciate it when that time comes. In the meantime, relax and enjoy the time you have.

I don't think you are jinxing yourself at all! I am 28 and single with no children and I feel like it is my responsibility to make my wishes clear for my family plus, a personal letter. I have not been banded yet (I'm praying that I will be on June 28th) but lap band surgery does carry a risk like any other surgery. It never hurts to leave a letter to your love ones.! If writing a letter will help ease your anxiety then write the letter. Like I tell everyone, Follow your heart! Good Luck!

My surgery is Tuesday. I am having a talk with my two young boys. The oldest is going to be the man of the house, much to the shagrin of his little brother if something goes very wrong. Mainly it's for me not them. Writing your letters is good therapy. Go for it!

You need to sit back and enjoy ! I know that's hard. Read the Forum, go look st the cloths you will eventually be wearing. Make some plans for your future like rewards for yourself for say..... every 25#'s that you lose, and I don't mean food.

Point is you have a whole New Life to look forward to..

Don't think Negative about such a positive thing....

What you were asked years ago, is still standard procedure.

So don't let it shake you up.

Enjoy yourself, make some plans, do plenty of research, (EVEN ON SHAKES), and enjoy the summer.