Hi all, I went to my doc this week and was discussing some concerns I was having, some fears. I have been heavy most of my life and I have reached a weight where I spent a good part of my adult life and is a fairly comfortable place for me although still a very obese place. My doc asked if i was afraid to be thin. I have to say..maybe a little. She shared an article by Dr. Matthew Anderson. there was a checklist and I answered yes to many of the questions.

I do find it hard to be noticed for looks instead of how funny or smart I was.

I have always struggled with relationships. I present as strong and self confident but, truthfully...nope. I am afraid that I will be rejected...

anyway wondering if anyone has heard of this author and if you agree or may feel the same way.

Hi there,

I totally get it. The weight is on us for many reasons. You just need to do the work and find out what your reasons are.

I was listening to a talk show the other day. They suggested we answer 3 questions: 1. Why am I overweight? 2. Why do I want to lose weight? 3. Why have I been unable to maintain weight loss? Then examine your answers. It's just a start. But that will get you going. Is there a way you can see a psychologist and work through the answers you come up with? Also, start journaling too. You may be surprised when you read back your answers later.

Oh and another good book for you may be Women, food & God by Geneen Roth.

Also, I just came across the Dec. 2010 issue of "o" magazine today. There was a mention of Marianne Williamson's book that had to do with weight loss as part of the Course in Miracles. I cant remember the name of the book, sorry. Good luck with your journey.

Hi all, I went to my doc this week and was discussing some concerns I was having, some fears. I have been heavy most of my life and I have reached a weight where I spent a good part of my adult life and is a fairly comfortable place for me although still a very obese place. My doc asked if i was afraid to be thin. I have to say..maybe a little. She shared an article by Dr. Matthew Anderson. there was a checklist and I answered yes to many of the questions.

I do find it hard to be noticed for looks instead of how funny or smart I was.

I have always struggled with relationships. I present as strong and self confident but, truthfully...nope. I am afraid that I will be rejected...

anyway wondering if anyone has heard of this author and if you agree or may feel the same way.