Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!! I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site

I am so happy this went well for you. That has to be such a relief and weight off your shoulders....no pun intended! Good luck moving forward. Shelley

Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!! I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site

Glad all went well I dont know what I would do without my husbands support it is so important to me that he will be by my side and rooting for me to be the best me I can be. My surgery date is May 24th Good luck to you.

Thanks everyone! He was very supportive!! I am so happy .

You are right now I can focus on other things. My pre-op diet starts May 18th and surgery is the 25th!

I told him I'll be saving him money too because I'll be eating less when we eat out

I'm so glad it went well! I just joined this community and got wrapped up in your husband drama already! lol I hope all goes well for you! keep us posted

Congratulations!!! Best wishes and keep us posted!! Hugz

So glad to hear it went well! Hurray!!!!!

That's great. I had the same response from my husband.My 3 kids knew about mine but the only family member who knows is my cousin who also had it. I am NOT telling my mother or sister or aunts because they are very judgemental about everything, funny though my mother and sister are both overweight. I told my children because God forbid anything happened to me in surgery they would never forgive me or my husband for not telling them. I bet if you told your daughter she would be your biggest supporter, unless she can't keep a secret lol. Good luck and keep us updated.

Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!! I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site

Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!! I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site

This was so funny to me.............It sounded just like me! I didn't know for sure how my husband would react and so I didn't tell him until about 3 weeks before my surgery. He was very calm and said "well, if that's what you are sure you want to do, fine." He has been very supportive and I also am very choosy about who I tell. I did finally tell my daughters about a week before the surgery.

Good luck to you on this journey. You won't be sorry you did it.

Glad to hear it went well!!! Congrats.

Yeah! the deed is done and you have support and love! Your daughters should be easy compared to this. Keep us posted!

I have to say today I went for my Endoscope and it felt really good to give my husband's name as a emergency contact. Thanks again to everyone!!!!!

So happy for you....

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The only person I didn't tell was my mother, but only because she's elderly and quite the worry wart. As soon as I got home from the hospital the first thing I did was call her and tell her. She was pissed at first but I told her I just didn't want her sitting at the hospital and worrying. All my siblings agreed this was the best way to do it. 3 years later and she's still my biggest supporter! Anyway, I got a lot of mixed reactions from everyone else....most were supportive but there were a few that were negative and judgmental. To those people I simply said, "I'm doing what I feel is best for me. If you think it's a mistake, well it'll be MY mistake. In the meantime I will thank you to keep your opinions to yourself!" At some point we have to say the Hell with what everyone else thinks. This is my life. I never have any qualms about telling anyone who asks. In fact I would shout it from the rooftops!

The only person I didn't tell was my mother, but only because she's elderly and quite the worry wart. As soon as I got home from the hospital the first thing I did was call her and tell her. She was pissed at first but I told her I just didn't want her sitting at the hospital and worrying. All my siblings agreed this was the best way to do it. 3 years later and she's still my biggest supporter! Anyway, I got a lot of mixed reactions from everyone else....most were supportive but there were a few that were negative and judgmental. To those people I simply said, "I'm doing what I feel is best for me. If you think it's a mistake, well it'll be MY mistake. In the meantime I will thank you to keep your opinions to yourself!" At some point we have to say the Hell with what everyone else thinks. This is my life. I never have any qualms about telling anyone who asks. In fact I would shout it from the rooftops!

Cindy you have lost so much weight!! Amazing!!! Congrats

Cindy you have lost so much weight!! Amazing!!! Congrats

Thank-you. You're going to do it too!

I know how you felt, I was very nervous about telling my husband. I was afraid he would say "do it like everyone else does". But he has been so supportive and comes home just about everyday with new information from others who know people who have had it done. I told him that the main reason I was having it done was for myself, but a lot of it is for us!! I really feel it will help grow our relationship stronger if I were more confident in myself. My husband isn't thin, but far from being heavy and I think to myself sometimes why does he want to be with a fat person like me. He's told me before, he didn't care if I weighed 500lbs that he would still be with me because he loves ME. He's not a very affectionate person, as I am but I truly feel this will help all the way around.