Okay-the house was emaply and I took down the newspaper advertisment for the Lapband seminar that my doctor advertises. I went down to his office and said do you have a minute I'd like to talk to you about something (I guess he thought it would be the fight). I handed him the newspaper and said I would like to get this. He studied it and said "I didn't know you were interested in this" and I said I am would you support me if I did it and he said sure.

Then I told him the surgery was in 2 weeks and he blocked out the day from work. He was very calm and asked a few questions. I went over to him and pointed to the before and after pic in the newpaper ad and he said -they are going to want you to model for the doctor. I thought that was very sweet. 100% total support!! I went over and gave him a hug and a kiss on the cheek.

I am SO happy!!

I told him I wanted to keep it just between else for now and I would prefer to decide who I'd like to tell and he agreed to keep request private. Then he asked if I was going to tell my daughters and I said probably after the surgery and I'll tell my mom once I start losing some weight too.

Thank you all for your support through all this drama-You all are AWESOME!!! I love this site

I know how you felt, I was very nervous about telling my husband. I was afraid he would say "do it like everyone else does". But he has been so supportive and comes home just about everyday with new information from others who know people who have had it done. I told him that the main reason I was having it done was for myself, but a lot of it is for us!! I really feel it will help grow our relationship stronger if I were more confident in myself. My husband isn't thin, but far from being heavy and I think to myself sometimes why does he want to be with a fat person like me. He's told me before, he didn't care if I weighed 500lbs that he would still be with me because he loves ME. He's not a very affectionate person, as I am but I truly feel this will help all the way around.

Jona I am in the same boat as you. I am hoping that things "heat up" a little more when I lose the weight. Things have slowed down considerably since I put on the weight. I am looking forward to feeling sexy again!