HEY GUYS,

HOW LONG AFTER SURGERY DID YOU WAIT TO HAVE SEX?! DOES IT EVEN MATTER OR NO?

My Dr said to wait 4 weeks to give yourself time to heal.

Ok,

My poor husband is about to die!!!!

Thanks

For me 1wk 3days...my poor husband was looking so pitiful. I figured I was already working out (doing Zumba) and had my first post -op appt. No long drawn out session, just short and sweet and to the point He was happy !

I actually could only wait for 2 days post op! So it depends on how u feel. Just dont put alot of pressure on stomach (wink wink)

Glad you asked this ???? My husband is just peeping at me and scared to ask...(lol) I will carefully whip-it on him tonight(lol)

1 week my boyfriend was very careful when he was on top (the safest position I think, he wouldn't put any of his weight on me)...no weird and strenuous positions. After 2 weeks we could have sex any way we wanted. <--- ok that sounded funny but you guys know what I mean.

Had surgery Monday. Had sex Tuesday. Couldn't eat or swallow drink so why not? Finished her not me tho...Fun all the same.

I waited three weeks to have sex. Yes, it was difficult, but my incisions were still really sore and tender. I wanted to give myself enough time to heal first and foremost. Secondly, a lot of positions were really uncomfortable and my favorite position (being on top) really hurt. Our main focus for those three weeks was intimacy without sex (massages, kissing, cuddling, etc.).

I would say you need to do whatever you feel comfortable with. If you're in pain, stop. There's a reason for pain; it's our bodies telling us that we need to chill. I would recommend avoiding positions that put pressure on your incisions or require excessive bouncing (and tell your partner to be especially careful of your port area). Otherwise, enjoy yourself :-)

I do have to say, losing weight has definitely increased my confidence in bed!

Um, finally "broke the fast" if you will (lol) today so 10 days...used lots of pillows for support. But if you're hurting it's not worth it; he'll be ok.

My hubby tried the night I got home! Haha but I held him off for three days. Want bad at all...i was still on pain meds...haha

Hahaha, you guys are hilarious, thanks for the responses!

My surgeon said and even prints in his book just not in the hospital!!

Cheri

I guess after the pain subsides and you are off the pain meds (who can get off on percocet or roxicet - no one I would imagine / they are marathon enablers when used recreationaly) anyway, after you are off the pain meds and can move comfortably around in bed (while sleeping, tossing to and fro) you are probably good to go. Listen to your body. Sex can wait because it is optional - healing is a necessary bodily function to seal up all the incisions and whatnot and a absolute priority post op - thats why they call it recovery. When in doubt err on the conservative side or consult your physician. I am sure this is very different for everyone.

My surgeon said and even prints in his book just not in the hospital!!

Cheri

That's what my papers said as well HA!