I am in a very stressful home situation, a violent partner and nowhere to go for the time being, and tonight was bad. I dont know what happened but before I knew it, I had eaten 2 small bits of bread with butter, 3 spoons of spaghetti sauce and a bit of soft fruit cheese. I am nine days post op and supposed rto be on fluids. Have I blown it?

First off, I am sorry to hear about your situation. I hope things start to get better for you.

Secondly, I don't think that you have blown it. Everyone is different and every doctor is different. I have known people who were on solid food after 6 days. I wouldn't keep doing it but I think that if you aren't having any symptoms you should be fine.

Good luck to you!

I'm sorry to hear about your home situation too -- and I hope you will find a way to get out of there soon. It sounds like you were lucky -- you would know if your band slipped. Just don't go off your post-op diet again.

I really hope that you will get out of that home situation soon.

Best regards,

Catherine

Dream, I'm so sorry you're in a bad situation. Have you investigated services for victims of domestic violence in your area?

Eating never solves any problems. It can feel soothing, but ultimately it makes us feel less in control, and prevents us from achieving what we want to achieve.

Maintaining control in the few areas we can control can really help us feel lots stronger as we confront more serious issues in our lives.

I don't think you've done a bit of harm to your body. But taking good care of yourself will ultimately help you, emotionally.

I'm also sorry to hear of the situation that you're living in. I hope you can find the strength to get away from it!

Betsy - I just want to say that I very much enjoy reading your posts. You have so much experience and consistently give good advice. Congratulations on all of your success!!