I am having an issue with my boss. She is already sabatoging me and I haven't even gone back to work yet:thumbdown: I have talked to her twice since surgery... the first time she told me i needed to eat and that she had just eaten Mexican ( which she knows is my favorite ) then today when i told her i was going to go ahead and take off the rest of the week her response was " I was just going to see if you would be in tomorrow because I am getting Boston Market " We are friends.... but I know she wasn't all that crazy about me having the surgery

I know I am going to have to have a talk with her.... anyone else go thru this or have any advice?

thanks!

I'd say lecturing anyone else about their weight is not a smart idea, let alone your boss!!

I didn't say anything about lecturing ANYONE...I don't pretend to have all my stuff togeter. BUT if this woman is saying those type things and she's just now out of surgery one of two things is happening...

1)She's oblivious

2)She's intentionally being RUDE

Either way, sometimes the best way to nip things in the bud is to be HONEST...and sometimes BRUTELY HONEST.

No lecture required.

After reading all these replies, it reminds me of some funny conversations I had w/friends just prior to my surgery. I am part of a big mom's group and we typically organize meal delivery for each of the mom's when they have a new baby or go through any sort of surgery or physical problem.

I've been a big part of the group so when it came time for my surgery, of course I had several friends from the group ask what they could do to help me after surgery. I just laughed and said 'Whatever you do, don't bring me food!'. Not that they would have been that dense (I think), but it just reminds me that sometimes a little humor goes a long way.

Everyone who I said that to laughed and it opened up discussion about how I would not be able to eat for awhile after surgery. Now all my friends are pretty well educated on how the band works and they don't bat an eyelash over the fact that on any given outing I may not be eating (if it is right after a fill) or eating very little.

Timbergurl thanks for your response. It got me thinking. She IS heavy as well ( however NOT as big as I am ) To be honest we have only gone out together to lunch 2x BUT now that I think about the "big picture " she is always talking about food and is always saying she is hungry. I guess I should of thought of that before but the first thing i thought of was the fact that she didn't want me to have the surgery. I also know that I will come across sabatogers and food pushers and was just asking some "experienced" banders their advice or how they handled the situation.

thanks

Deb LadyRose - Your going in the right direction - Love your attitude and reaching out for help is the best thing you can do. Rock on gurl.... It takes time, willpower and oh a whole lot of advice to get into the right mind set and break some bad habits both from you and your family and friends...

It's funny cuz I'm a bit over two years out and after my last fill Feb. 23rd I've finally hit my best sweet spot EVER and my mother who has supported me from day one. Kept telling me you need to eat more, is that all your eating, your gong to get sick if you don't eat more than that on and on.... Finally I looked at her and said "mom I know what I'm doing is correct, I'm finally following the doctor's menu and portions to a Tee I see him every 6-7 weeks now and if he feels I'm not doing good I'll change what I'm doing" She smiled and said " Ok sorry I seemed to gear you off your plan, I'm just not used to you eating so little, kinda like a skinny girl" we both busted out laughing and that broke the ice with out me hurting her or having her mad at me. I knew she had my best interest at heart but it just didn't come out as well as she thought it was...... Gotta love the family..

Hmm, me eating like a skinny girl..... Holly Cow!! LOL

Leaving food on my plate, taking small/tiny portions, taking all healthy items.....

Keep on eatin' like that "skinny girl " LiveLoveLaugh and you will BE one before you know it and not just eating like one :thumbup:

Thanks so much for your post!

Thanks.... It's funny to hear that.. since I really must have been eating like a really fat girl.

I have to say it does gross me out to watch some other people eat now. Huge bites, super fast and the huge amounts all day long. I'm even grossd out to watch my family and I have to stop myself from saying to much to them because they get a bit offensive. Yikes.... I don't want to become their FOOD POLICE!! LOL