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To you guys who have the basic BC/BS, did you lose weight during the 3 month supervised diet. I am finding it really hard to diet knowing I will be so restricted once I have the surgery................HC

That is great...I liked him Dr. McEwen too...his whole staff was friendly and helpful. Who is your insurance through? We have Lumeons, BC/BS and we had already been told we were approved too if we met certain requirements..which I meet....so.....my insurance has record that they recieved it on Monday...now begins the waiting.... please email me along your journey..it would be great to talk with someone going through it and also same doctor.... Traci

No that was not my thread! So when you spank I assume everyone is jovial about it at the time, how is anger never involved in spanking that's BS and you know it! brandyII.

I believe most people, be it a smaller family or this one, can and would behave well if they had a camera filming them. We have no idea who cared for these 6 or really how they were cared for until the spotlight hit due to the 8 babies. It has been an issue with the family obviously or the womans own Mother would not be so fed up with her! I know to receive disability is not always an easy task, it often takes legal involvement to obtain. She receives it for herself and assitance for 3 kids..... It just boggles my mind why she would allow 6 embryos to be implanted....when she knew she was not raising her existing 6 without assistance. And while no, I am not going to get a bill in the mail for my share of the goverment aid they will receive....the money still comes from somewhere, and it is not HER pocket--the ONE and only person who made this decision. The ONE and only person who SHOULD be paying her own way in this debacle! There is a saying that if you are not part of the solution then you are part of the problem.....and while that is very black and white, I feel this situation is too, and she is without question, part of the problem. Kat

K. Couric just asked Eric Cantor how the reps. plan on cutting spending. He said "we have to get back to before 2008 spending", again never answered the mfin question. Im so pi$$ed, I cant believe all the idiots who buy this bs. I just want a republican to actually answer a question without working around it!!!

Okay...I'll try again. THiS was an inquiry into regrets. Some of us have a few. If you are about to have this surgery--or recently banded--and hear that someone else did NOT experience a safe, simple, successful journey to a healthy weight...it might feel threatening. That's because MOST of us read that all it takes is following the rules and people who follow the rules will succeed. Truth is, some do and some don't. And most people don't want to face that risk, so they'd rather shoot the messenger...as though that will protect them from some possible failure. There is (obviously) a lot of emotional garbage that enters into a wls desicion. Once you get there, and convince yourself that it is time to take this step, it is difficult to accept that it still might not work. WLS MAY work; it MAY not. I will repeat for those who would rather go for creative interpretations of what I'm TRYING to communicate: 1--No wls is without risks...INCLUDING the band. 2--The most successful procedures carry the highest risks. 3--The RnY and DS are not the killer surgeries that band-or-nothing people claim they are. (If they were, our insurance companies would use that excuse to not pay for those surgeries.) 4--There is no BEST wls. 5--What's right for someone who is 30, may be the wrong choice for someone who is 60. What is right for someone who was a normal weight and became wheelchair-bound and recently gained 150 pounds may be wrong for someone who has been obese since childhood. 6--LapBand is the safest SURGERY...but SURGERY IS OVER IN A DAY. 7--LapBand and RnY have similar long-term results. 8--The DS has better long term results than the band or RnY, but has life-long malabsorption issues. (More so than RnY.) 9--Many people are not prepared financially, emotionally, intellectually to provide themselves with proper post-op care, regardless of surgery. 10--When my band worked well, it worked well, AND I still regret waiting so long to have my band removed once it became problematic. If I recall, I was one of the first people on this board to announce that I was having my band removed. Since then, many people have had their bands removed for many reasons. I don't have a problem with the band needing to be removed...I have a problem with people who are so emotionally invested in the concept that if they follow the rules everything will be just fine that they have no other technique than to try to chase away the person bringing the news they don't want to hear. The why-don't-you-go-away chants aimed at me--and I have been here since Alex decided one day on the old Spotlight board to start this place because there were no band-only boards around--are ridiculous...especially coming from people who have little or no experience with the band. I almost NEVER discuss the whether someone should or should not get the band. I answer inquiries into regrets, and complications and other areas where I have experience. Frankly, I don't care who gets a band and who doesn't. But I DO care when people are being fed bullshit. If someone--or an Army, for that matter--does not like me or the way I respond to posts, they might want to hit the ignore button and remove me from their view. THAT would be the intelligent thing to do...which is why I don't expect those who claim I'm terrible to read to do anything like that. They would rather mis-read, misunderstand and mis-paraphrase me...so that they have a place to hang their fear of failure. Again...my problem is not with people getting or not getting the band...my problem is with ignorance and lies.

Also - no exercise bc i have a sore on my thigh from chafing. ugh, that will be the sweetest nsv, when THAT doesn't happen anymore!!!!

I too am in a loveless marriage. We have been married 15 years and my husband has been unfaithfull for several of those years finally confessing to an addiction 4 years ago. Since then I have had a hard time being with him especially when he treats me like crap during the day and all of a sudden wants me when we get in bed. However this hasnt been the case lately since he has slept on the couch (His Choice) for several months. Since my decision in April 07 to get the lap band he has lost about 40 pounds, bought a mustang GT and has been out with his friends more than ever. My two children 6 and 3 are feeling the stress and my heart is breaking! His family is even fed up with him at this point. And so I live day to day wondering if he will end it or will I get the courage to do it. Is it going to get better? I doubt it. As I begin to lose weight and my self-confidence grows I think he will pull away from me even more. I guess time will tell! Valzie

Lucy: I can imagine that the loss of libido would make yu very sad. Others on this thread have the same issues. They may not be from bc but other causes such as antidepresants. You've come to the right thread to talk about it. Well ladies our topics have been far reaching lately from toys, female hygiene tips to going bare there. I have a new one for you, has anyone ever heard of the plastic surgery they are doing now to tighten the vagina to increase sexual pleasure? Does anyone know anyone who has ever had it done? (would anyone admit to it?) I was on a ps web site the other day trying to get an idea of some prices for a thigh lift and they were advertising this. (first I'd ever heard of it, ouch)

Great Info....still relevant so many years later. Thank you. I actually sent you a friend request on FB. I wanted to learn more about Dr. Alberto Aceves. I am also a revision surgery candidate. I had the lap band removed in October 2013 bc of complications. I couldn't do the revision at that point bc of too much damage and the insurance company didnt want to fund it. I'm now looking into Mexico bc of continued problems with the insurance company. Ironically, I already have the Insanity DVD also. Can't wait to get to the point where I can start it as well. I actually like working out so right now I feel like crap. Hope to get more advice from you. Thanks again.

I just don't allow myself to eat anything high cal or carbs, I think it's very important to keep yourself away from the bad food that could become your slider. My personal belief is I put my body threw major surgery and had a huge part removed, why do all that if I go back to my old ways. This is just how I believe. I understand not everyone thinks that way but it's working for me. Iv lost a total of 80 lbs 70 since sleeved oct 9 th, my way of thinking had paid off for me. So at 11 days post op plz don't be even wondering ab sliders bc it might be your down fall a few months out

Eggs are not good for me either! They are a slow go, or have to be mixed with other stuff---as in huevos rancheros, or with hashbrowns---so...I usually eat very little. Cindy--------oh my this could be the blind leading the blind!!! I think if you go to User CP---and then on the left hand side of the screen you can then go to EDIT OPTIONS and in there you can opt to allow PM's---and somewhere right in there you can allow email if you want. Don't feel like you need to allow email, if you simply open it up so we can PM you we can exchange it in private, and no one else will be able to email you. Now to send one of us, or anyone else on LBT a PM---go to one of our posts, and click on our user name, it will drop down a menu that will give you options of sending a PM or an email---among other things. I don't want to go check it out-everytime I try to do that, I end up losing my post!! Hope that helps. If not---we will get someone involved who is much more computer literate than I am---in other words, most anybody!!! Wonderful gift idea Pamela---Tracy sounded thrilled to pieces! How is Susanne today? I know nothing much about the disease, it sounds horrible though. My DD dealt with some serious female issues while they were in the service, what useless Dr.'s she had! She is lucky to have her DD today, they let things slide, putting her off, giving her BS diagnosis--terrible that they consider themselves medical professionals over there! Tell her we hope she is on the mend. Judy got the PM---good idea, will stop and check that out while out shopping today! OK---GINA!!! I hate to put you on the spot, but you MUST share your pictures with everyone here--OMG girls you cannot imagine...she is much like our TracyK, keeping her huge success to herself! Gina posted her progress pics on the Before and After---and she has done SO well! As I told her, I liked the new Avatar---but Holy Moley, she has lost almost a hundred pounds already! So Gina--show the rest of our crew!!! And yes--I'm gonna tell on you in Jersey too!!! LOL---I really am proud of you--you have done an incredible job! Well Rick and our son have gone with our friend Gary to hunt. Rick technically does not hunt anymore. But he often goes with the guys, to set up camp, and spend the night, sometimes the weekend, then comes home. Gary will be staying a week, or until he gets his elk. This way we know exactly where his camp is, etc. Rick will be coming back tomorrow evening, our Son sometime Monday. They are nuts, it is deep in snow up there, and predicting up to 2 feet more! They have a winter tent and a woodstove for the tent--but no thanks!!! So today Becky and I are off to finish my shopping up, and get hers started! Someone has to light a fire under this girl and it looks like it will be me! I'll check back with all of you later today! (((hugs))) Kat

HOLA GALS!!!! hmmmmmmmmmmm. lets see... where to start... of course i'm just getting in my work. I am so tired lately. Laura - hugs on the holiday bs... I'm kind of jealous listening to all your dilema's of where to go... well, I don't really have family here, my mom lives with me and my sister is married so they do stuff with his family, my dad is around now that i'm working for them again, but they have their own family... So.. no problem here, I hang out at home with my kids and love them to death... OH... dbf... can't deal so don't... he knows where we live. Jane - HUGS... i am sure you are fine but can see how that can make you crazy waiting. no sweets. THROW THEM ALL AWAY!!!! I have 1/2 c Eddy's no sugar or 1/2 the fat ice cream every night... will that be satisfying? Tell me what you are munching on and I'll find you an alternative. We have all had our struggles and we have all been there for each of us... YOUR TRUN GIRLFRIEND!!! April 08- I'm in - fri-mon long weekend is perfect. I am so excited... see time found the perfect answer. Can't wait to claim my loss in the am... I'm keeping my fingers crossed it is the same!

OMG..what has happened to this site?? I feel a bit uncomfortable with it?? I have a a seriously bad day re food wise :cry I mean I blew it big style, with food, red wine and a mint magnum. I feel so fed up, its like I went through all of this for what??? I havent lost any weight for over a week +..... I have a bracelet with no charms :think ....sorry folks I feel soooo fed up. Squale has lost 47lbs!!! I mean apart from eating thin air at water I dont know what to do. Im hungry all the time, Im thinking of food and drink....when I do try and eat food it comes back up, so I force it down, omg....I feel so low... Sorry,

No, Tracy I don't dream about my band, but I DO dream about beading and come up with ideas in my dreams!! Cool huh? But earlier I was dreaming that I was working for my old boss (yuck). He was throwing a party to celebrate his new house (I always dream about houses!). The invitations were going out to select few but very important people....and included the recipe and ingredients for some cajun thing. The ingredients included sliced strawberries (!) and I had to figure out a way to slice and package the strawberries, along with the other ingredients, and get them fed-ex'd to the people by tomorrow without ruining the strawberries (but HOW?)....and I only had an hour to do it. But first I had to find his house (for some reason) and I was driving around and around and couldn't find it....and meanwhile the clock was ticking and I was running out of time. I was becoming VERY anxious when I woke up. LOL My life as a secretary feels like that sometimes, but it's never that bad!!

I'm home too! Glad to hear things went as well as they could for a court system, and his no show crap!!! You just take it a step at a time, and the deeper hole he gets dug into financially the better your odds I would guess. Woo hoo on the 12's!!! I have 2 pairs of old 12's I was given that I can wear, but all my new and regulars are 14's and likely will remain that until this belly goes!!! Was also happy to hear the Dr. is going to run things again for you TracyK. I know exactly what you mean about psyching yourself up for the quit! I quit as a New Years Resolution, and chose the day of April 1st. In 100% honesty I know I chose that day in case I wimped out I could claim it was an April Fools joke. Then my ex said I couldn't quit, I was too weak. Just the thing I needed to do it! Last April was 16 years ago!!! We will help! Get your Chantix! Pamela I am sure your observation went fine!!! Enjoy your class! Terry--glad you remembered to thank Tracy's DH for being one of the good guys, they don't get remembered for it too often, they are all usually lumped together as jerks, and they aren't all bad!!! You are always so with it! Well they did 2 different scans today, the MRI and a contrast scan. I had to lie with my head hanging for over an hour, I have a killer headache, and cannot take anything! Then they did an allergen test, and I passed, so they wanted me to swallow a horse capsule, for the scan tomorrow! I said uh uh!!! They found it in smaller capsules in the other pharmacy at the hospital. So tomorrow I go back to have this one done. They measured me, and drew all over my throat with marker! Now my plan was to go to Walmart and grab the things I didn't do yesterday----but I have on a deep V neck shirt, with markings all over me---so just come home, my head hurt too bad anyway. Come home to get Kinsey, and found out the dog had bit her in the face. They have this (sorry but it is) Stupid teeny tiny chihuahua....he weighs like under 3 pounds! It was given to Manda's bf---and the girls love him, but he is attaching to my Mom, and Kinsey went to hug her, and he nailed her. I called Manda and told her the dog has strike 1------she knows I will personally eat the dog if necessary at strike 3!!! No, she really is a good Mom, and will not keep the dog if it is not good with the girls---but I was furious! Thank goodness I put dinner in the crockpot, I do not feel like doing anything!!! Thanks for all the prayers that went with me today, I could feel them! I told Rick, that I had the waiting room full of people waiting for me today! I will come back later tonight, and check in with everyone---going to get Kinsey fed...her broccoli and cheese is ready! Kat

Terry Kat is right... I knew that this surgery would make us or break us, just so much seems got be going on all at once. so - we can vent here and all know that there are lots of changes, relationships, friends, family, everyday bs... I have decided to invite some friends over tomorrow, going to be hot and humid here so why not... dbf is not going to be here so i might as well be with my friends andn ot feel sorry for myself. I'm going to go to walmart later to get some burgers and groceries well back up to clean my hell room. LOL

Hi everyone! Jane I have full intentions of answering your PM---time has just been short! Thank you so much! Today we bucked the hay we spent til after 10 last night baling. Then I helped MIL put up 11 quarts and 8 quart bags of snap peas (aka black eyed peas.) I come home, sorted laundry, and madly tried to get some things done here---then we met our friends for a planning session for the weekend rally, and dinner. When we left dinner, we come back here, and just finished a couple of games of Mexican Train Dominoes. We leave in the morning to take my Dad to Albq. to see the cardiologist concerning his carotid artery bypass. I just don't see them putting him directly into the hospital just before the weekend, especially a holiday weekend. So provided we come home tomorrow night, then we are headed out Saturday morning to a rally about 30 miles away. We aren't taking a camper Tracy!!!! But we have a ceiling fan in our tent---and we ALWAYS have a way to make their coffee...I take juice for myself!!! Saturday night we have tickets to REO Speedwagon, and Smashmouth. We also have tickets my friends DH won to the womens oil & hot cream wrestling Saturday!!! Should be wild---I imagine the guys will love it!!! Have no idea if we will actually go! We will be home Sunday night sometime, we have a full day Monday, getting the front field baled and bucked. Not sure when exactly I will be here, heck it could be in hours...I might find time in the morning, then again I may not get here until Tuesday...so don't worry!!! Denise, any word from DD? Terry--the unfill helping? I think my August total is like a whopping 4-5 pounds. BUT it is lost, so I am gonna be happy with it! I wish I had more drive to lose the rest quicker, but I am just so doggone happy even where I am, I just don't give a hoot about worrying about it! I have been in an incredible mood all day! It may sound totally stupid, and yeah, I truly may have gone off the deep end---but last night, I think I totally fell for my DH again! I cannot really tell you why....lots of little reasons, all running together last night. He had worked all day, but was busting his butt for his Dad, and he kept such a sense of humor about it, and he took such care with him, without making his Dad feel useless. I was angry about having to do the hay, and I knew I had to get up early---but he kept even my attitude up. There was a point I was driving the truck & trailer, and he was bucking bales into the trailer, his Dad was driving the tracter with the baler on it. The back field is by the river, and the big baler will not go through the gate. So we were following the tractor, and he jumped up on the baler, and rode a hay bale as it fed through...and my heart just flipped, all over again. He was no longer an almost 50 year old man, he was the "boy" I fell in love with all those years ago...riding the bales just like he did then....it was so bizarre! I mean I have always loved him, I had never felt any less, so this sudden surge was shocking! It was like such an eye opener, all day I keep seeing things he does everyday, that I had begun to take for granted, and should not have. I have been smiling all day.... Well it is 1:30 in the morning, but I had so much iced tea at dinner---well after, we sat there for a long time!!! And it was regular iced tea so full of caffeine that my body is totally unused to, so I am still awake!!! I need to go try to sleep. DH is in the middle of a movie---guess I am not the only one it affected!!! Anyway---everyone take good care of themselves! I will be back and check in with everyone. I have received a few addresses from some of you guys, if anyone else wants on the list for exchange amongst us---just PM me your info, and I will add it to the list. I don't know when I will send it out, but before Christmas cards!!!! LOL!!! See y'all later!! Kat

Good Morning All, I can see by the time most of you are in a different time zone. lol It's only 6:30 where I live and now it's raining so the snow is melting and will be yucky by the time I need to go out. Suziecat- love the smilies and it might be the explanation to where they all come from! They regenerate them selfs. Tracy Ks- I see the ones in your near future and then I hope not to be far behind. Yesterday I cleaned out th fridge and when Bruce came in from work I fed it all to him. Now life can go back to normal around here. We have no kids in the house so normally it's empty and void of sugar snacks but, not this week. I don't dare get on the scale till Sunday! But reading about all you helps so thanks for the invite. Have a groovy day Violets.

How in God's name is the BCS system something Congress should be making laws about?!

So... do they just want to hear your response to the most recent BS, or are they wanting to counsel you because of a response you have already shown that they take issue with? Omg, that SO sounds like what I came from. Some people have more lunacy than sense.

Well I have plenty of breast tissue they are still very full but I want to drop a few more lbs and I'm scared they will be small Bs when I'm done ...the horror..

Glad he seems to be better - how nice of you to leave him for them. too much BS?

Sorry to hear the latest bs about your insurance I hope you can get it straightened out. I guess each insurance company is different but still they should tell you this info ahead of time before they put you through all of this!

I am just the opposite --- I love the show!!! Now I have never ask them for help, and have "questioned" a few of the recipients----but it is still a decent show I feel like. It is much more uplifting to watch people be rewarded for doing good things, such as tonights, where they took in 4 nieces and nephews, as opposed to rewarding people for who can eat the grossest things, or be conniving enough to beat out someone else. It is part of my Sunday night line up.....but I don't expect you to watch if ya don't wanna!!! LOL To each their own. My Best Friends loves the Survivor shows----I just shake my head in disbelief!!! Then again my DH LOVES the political crap, and I cannot stand all the constant back stabbing and BS!! And the arguing, gets on my nerves in nothing flat! No wonder we have so many channels to choose from!!! LOL G'night all....